Taking back our image, and putting bw FIRST!!

Whatever type of image we ALLOW is what we will see!!!
































Ever notice how many industries are built on the backs of bw? Many shops run by non-blks in the inner cities would dry up and go away without the patronage and MONEY of blk women. Starting but not limited to the hair salons, hair stores, cosmetic stores, some restaurants, and even some general stores. The truth is blk women are prolific consumers, and many a business is built around her livelihood. Many rappers would be 'rapping' in their basements if blk women did not buy their drivel. Yet they have the nerve to call the call the very women keeping them fed horrible names, and slander bw before the world. Many movie producers would only be dreaming of making movies if blk women did not frequent their movies to give them support.  A few that come quick to mind are, John Singleton, Spike Lee, and Tyler Perry, but there are many more. Many big name athletes would be small time nobodies if bw had not helped them through college, during college, or to get into college in the first place! Usually this is done through church, family, or community donations. Yet most of the time the minute these men make it, they leave for greener pastures, and call the women who helped them -hood rats. Think about it for a moment. If bw had not declared to the world how sexy, fine, charismatic and wanted men like Denzel, Morris C. Boris, Taye digs,  Makakai (sp?) and a ton of others, these men would still be hungry actors looking for their big breaks. Some of the highest paid or most sought out bm actors in the world owe their predominant success to bw. Some of those names include Samuel, Lawrence Fishburn, Don Cheatle, Terrance Howard, Cuba, Wesley, Jamie foxx, Eddie Murphy, Forest Whittaker Will Smith etc. Trust and believe before it even came to the big screen, there were bw in their families helping them out with money, time, coaching, support etc. When they got small parts, bw came out in droves to give them support when the media didn't know or care to know who they were. This also goes for comedians, and many other high profile bm.  Many of the same bm now claiming bw don't know which fork to use -so they can't date her. Are the same men who used to sing a different tune when he had no fork of his own. My point is this, you have much more power than you realize, if someone is being disrespectful, or demeaning-simply cut ties. You don't need to curse someone out, simply refuse to buy their records, see their films/shows/concerts etc. Action ALWAYS speaks louder than words. An actor is only as good as his last film, and a singer/rapper is only as good as their last record. So when Taye digs takes digs at the bw, and makes snide remarks about us-simply refuse to watch his shows/movies. When damaged Wesley (who busted Halle's ear-and then had to nerve to say bw don't know how to conduct themselves) has a movie, simply boycott it. When damaged roach-looking little Wayne is claiming that B*tches are only pretty when their light skinned/white. Let the light skinned and white women keep his sorry, disturbed ass in business! Ladies there is a much more effective way to fight ppl you keep in business- and that is with YOUR POCKET BOOKS!  The truth is there are thousands of industries built on the backs of bw or who would succumb without her. We MUST make them toe the line and not be allowed to continue putting garbage up that smears, and denigrates us. Have you noticed that every new trash talk show grabs some foolish acting bw/ppl and makes an ass of her/them on national tv? Everyone is using us for ratings-at our expense. It used to be just Jerry Springer who never has a talk show. It was always a Trash show. Now you have Trish somebody, Jeremy Kyle, Rickey Lake is back and some other wg all using bw/bp to get rich while making us all look like jackasses in the process. And lets not forget how Maury turned his show into baby momma drama and got very rich off stupid women telling all of America they were not sure of the paternity of their child's father. But notice he NEVER uses ASIAN women! That's because his very Asian wife reportedly told him she had better not ever see Asian women being exploited on national tv-or made to look like tramps! Ladies IMAGE is EVERYTHING! Why? Because perceptions becomes reality. We cannot afford to let the world simply exploit us for their own selfish gain, at our expense. Anyone notice that since shallow hal there has not been another movie picking on fat white women?  That's because ww caused such a fuss, and made such a racket the studio promised to be more considerate (TO THEM) in the future. What did they do to fill the void of malicious humor left by angry ww. You guessed it. They simply filled it with fat, unattractive or uncouth bw. You can see this play out time and again. Commercials with neck twisting frumpy-looking bw saying things like
" uhhhh huhhh , ummm giiiirrrrrllll- you right that cleaner ain't got nuthin on my PineSol"
 Or Mammy type films in which a big ugly bw is the happy handmaiden to a pretty wg and is saying
"Ms Scarlet pleaz eet fo meh now use gon be ungry iffnt ya don't"
Sometimes I'm so embarrassed I want to scream. Movies made by bm seem to be the worst.
Wanda-Shanaynay,  Norbit, Big Mamma's House etc. Then there is the music, (and I use this term loosely) that taunts us and constantly calls us names;  dark butts, fat ass, bitches, hoes, hood rats, ugly ass women, Nappy headed hoes, etc. I don't even want to recall anymore it's too upsetting.  My point is there are a whole lot of ppl invested in /hurting/using or simply exploiting bw for various reasons for their own gain. It's time we stopped allowing it. It's time we take our power back. Vote with your feet. Refuse to go to movies that deem to exploit, demean or sully us.  Refuse to listen to C-rap music. Boycott products that use neck twisting, ghetto-acting bw. Nothing changes until WE change. Until we fight -until we wake up.  We owe it ourselves and the future generation of little bgs coming behind us to change this mess. To make it a better, brighter, safer, and more loving world for them.  And we already know Hollywood follows the MONEY trail. You can trace almost any and all behavior back to the money. This is why we are seeing more and more movies, commercials, etc with bw/non blk men because Hollywood knew probably before many bp that bw were ready to venture out and mate/marry other men. They also know that these couples have higher incomes than average, are more highly educated, and usually stay together stubbornly. Never give your power away. You CAN change things. with your vote, with your protests, with your money, and with your stubborn refusal to go along with whatever script someone has written for you. This was concisely told to me by  my sister blogger on a prior post

Halima said...

The only time I can remember that I can actually applauding black women for doing something smart for a change was when back in the 90s they took down Wesley Snipes a peg or two when he appeared on the cover of an Ebony that had an interview of him in it where the fool was saying, in a magazine read by black women, that black women act like a difficult bunch of women 'to come home to'. BW finally publicly and vocally let it be known that they didn't have to stand back, listen to or support his mess. I think that that little lesson was why Eriq La Salle on ER decided to publicly tell people that he world only partnered with black SO's on the show. If anything he could get that bit of a boost from BW!

Ak you have made such an important point, when bw refuse to honor themselves no one honors them. You honor yourself by dealing heavy blows on whoever (and I mean whoever) will ‘mess’ with you. Its so simple no one needs to be taught this basic dynamic of human interaction that is except bw.

Essentially bw have rewarded bm for po** on them and then they turn round and wonder why their honor is besmirched left right and center. SMH have you ever seen a clearly confused bunch of women who cant make the clear connection between their situation at the hands of bm now and their unconditional approval and support of them.

Everyone 'tests' boundries and need 'reminders' to not get ideas. what happened is that bm tested the boundaries and found no one awake and ready to take them down for their mess on bw. Any wonder the proliferation of bw image-defilers among bm.

When this, ‘always try to support a brother’ or ‘don’t be too hard on a brother’ mantra took over it spelled death for bw’s image. Our young girls need to be taught a new mantra, that ‘you must never love bm more than you love yourself’ or ‘love your community more than you love and care for yourself’.

BW sent a clear message to the likes of Wesley snipes then, I wonder what happened and why they decided to be less vigilante and soft on brothers after, and the rewards are with us. Unconditional love and support and giving black men blank cheques over our image and how to present it has lead to this disgraceful situation.

You have to be willing to slay anyone to protect your image because even allowinging the smallest hole in the dam and the next thing, the whole structure comes down (ask the Netherlanders)

And you are right ak, it is the infrastructure of the love and support and protection and efforts of bw that are holding up these black male entertainers and their mess. If only bw organized and pulled the plug…..

(M)- ESSENCE Lying letter, another tactic to keep BW bound and gagged....

They would much rather see you in pic 1 or 2
than 3-4 even at the expense of your  peace of mind  and happiness....

So I heard about the ridiculous letter at M essence mag, and couldn't resist going to take a look.
Actually all I can really say is that anyone silly enough to believe this letter is real-I've got a piece of the Brooklyn bridge to sell you. I actually posted a copy below so you can see for yourself how ridiculous and contrived this so-called letter is. I'm not surprised they are coming out with this tactic, what is surprising to me is that some bw are actually buying into it. I mean you would practically have to have taken the little yellow bus to school to believe this one!
It supposedly is written by a bw (yeah right) who claims her white hubby is calling her  racially defamatory names during sexual intercourse. She claims to have had the money to go to an I.L.S. yet later quits her job at his suggestion and does not have the means to leave him! Even as he smears her with slurs and epithets, she claims to love him in unmitigated fashion, and find him oh so handsome, faithful and generous!  Now think for a minute do any of you ladies describe someone you are lividly angry at in such glowing terms?

She also says that her husband who is American, has joked about 'owning' her people  (who are NOT American -mind you) and refers to her hair as 'good hair'!  Now I have to ask even the most gullible of us -when was the last time you heard a wm use the term 'good hair!!!' If that statement alone does not alert you to the REAL author of  this letter -a BLACK MAN- then I'm a little worried about you...

Here are some other obvious clues...
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1. The (alleged)  author claims to be an Ivy league Graduate but her poor sentence structure, and colloquial language paint a picture of a far more mundane education.

2. She intimates that she's only staying with hubby for financial reasons _this ties in perfectly with the lie bm constantly tell about bw only wanting wm for money (as if they ALL have money).

3. She mentions how his insults, and epithets grow increasingly cruel, yet she continues to stay-how many bw will let a wm get away with this?

4.  She has, or claims to have the dedication, wherewithal, and stamina to finish an ILS!-yet quits
her job at his mere suggestion, and depends solely on him for her support and sustenance-even though there are no children for her to care for yet!

5.  She asks asinine questions like "How can I regain attraction for my husband?"  and  "please tell me this is not the norm for IR relationships!"  Does this really sound like a bw to you? Or does it sound more like a bm  Mimicking a bw?

6. The letter makes it abundantly clear that she is merely a fetish to him- How many men MARRY their fetish!!

There are more clues, but I think you get the jist. This letter is faker than a cubic zirconium. But what is most telling and notable are the large amount of bm on the Essence board talking about it. Last I heard Essence was a WOMEN'S magazine! Why would they be there? And why the uproar over a fake letter (which of course they are trying to pass off as real) when there is hardly a peep over all the  real horrors visited upon bw on a daily basis at the hands of bm? Since I was the child of a marine, I have lived all over the US. And I can tell you that 3-4 times when I was referred to as a b*tch or N-word to my face, it was at the hands of black men -not white. You can turn on any radio and hear bm calling us the B-word the H-word, or the N-word like it was going out of style. And now you are telling me that they are so angry and up in arms because a wm allegedly said it? Bull!
I will tell you what is really going on behind the feigned rage these fools are displaying. They are angry alright-but not at this fake letter. They are angry because their livestock is getting away! As more and more bw open their options and escape-they were at first non-plussed and cavalier. Then they became just a tad more nervous as the numbers increased. But now bw-wm are the fastest growing IR coupling -and they are becoming enraged.
So their feigned anger at this alledged wm and his racial slurs is all the excuse they need to tell bw -

 "See we  don tole you so!  Dem whate mens only wants t' git n ya drawels and din he gon call yu a n*gga!"
"Yu ain't neva gon realle be hs wife -jus his bed wennch!"

Now think about it for a moment. If this man really wanted to  emotionally abuse-and racially debase this woman-do you really think he would have MARRIED HER! He would have done exactly what bm do everyday. a.  Come by and use her and go on about his business.  or b. went to a prostitute and taken out his racial animus on her.  The clues are so glaring I simply cannot believe anyone actually fell for this letter but I guess some ppl have a vested interest in this drivel being portrayed as truth, namely bm and the now editors of M essence which is now headed by 2 WHITE WOMEN AND A BLACK MAN! All the more reason why any self respecting bw would steer clear of this garbage rag, and it's infectious lies that pass as veracity...
Below is the ridiculous letter-read it and tell me do you think this non sense is real?....

                         
Dear ------,

My man keeps calling me a “nigger bitch” during sex and I hate it.

I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the ivy league school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.

We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.

I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “nigger lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.

I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people can use the word and he cannot. I don’t use the word or believe in the nigga/nigger differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say: “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”

Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.

My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.

How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?