An Ad won't save our boys-they need REAL Help!

  Essence Magazine Ad.... says....

Scared for Our Boys? Join Our #He Is Not A Suspect Campaign...       

  This is a campaign that essence has recently started. I just don't believe a campaign like this is going to work. I think the best thing we can do for our young men is to get REAL fathers in their lives, who will teach them how to carry, conduct, and become men, and not little boys in grown bodies...

 

 Essence magazine says:          Stop profiling our boys!

The Zimmerman verdict disappointed and enraged millions this weekend—but perhaps no group of people was more struck than Black mothers, who worry daily about the dangers their sons face because they are profiled without consequence. These are women that ESSENCE seeks to serve and support every day.

In response to the Not Guilty verdict in the Trayvon Martin murder case, ESSENCE is launching a powerful movement aimed at stopping the racial profiling of our sons.

Starting Tuesday, July 16, we’re launching #HeIsNotASuspect, a counter-stereotyping campaign designed to challenge negative images of young African American men.

We're inviting readers to post on Instagram and Facebook photos of themselves and a young Black man they care about—a son, brother, nephew, cousin, neighbor or grandson—with a few words explaining why he's so much more than a stereotype, using the hashtag #HeIsNotASuspect.

For example: "This is me with my brilliant son Christopher. He's a freshman in high school who wants to be an architect. He loves to draw and play soccer. #HeIsNotASuspect"

This kind of affirmation is a simple yet proven approach to counter the dangerous stereotypes that put our children at risk. “Discrimination reflects the cultural messages that people are getting, so we need to alter those messages at the source,” says Dr. David Williams, Ph.D., professor of public health, African American studies and sociology at Harvard University. At ESSENCE we believe we can change the message. We can move a nation steeped in racial stereotypes about Black boys to learn the truth of who our sons really are.

It’s time to celebrate our young men, not profile them. Help our campaign go viral.  Our sons’ lives depend on it.

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As much as it hurts me to say it, the discrimination that many bright, industrious, and ambitious young men are encountering is due in part to their racial peers conducting themselves like thugs. Unfortunately, there are so many young bm out there acting like damn fools, that one you have a few who don't and never would, they are cast in the guilt by association pool.

In my family (A very large family) we have some thugs and fools too, but most of the men in my family are hard working, dedicated, and thriving (we have a good amt. of very, very wealthy ppl )members of society. like most blk Americans, we are all mixed up-mainly due in part to an old white grandmother who ran off with her INDIAN slave (Yes Indians were slaves too, at one or another almost ALL races were slaves) The very term slave comes from the word Slavic, which was originally a WHITE race of slaves in the 15-16th century. Many of them were owned by BLACK people -study your history-so you will not be deceived. That's anther topic but my point is we consider ourselves black and are proud to be so. But most of the older men in the family encourage the young men to:

 

• Pull their pants up-what kind of fool walks around with his butt hanging out!
• Go to either college or trade school. Get some kind of schooling that will enable you to care for yourself and your family
• Take care of your children.  If men have children in my family either in or out of wedlock (obviously in is preferred) the other men will encourage, push, and demand if nec. that they take care of their responsibilities-as a result, almost all do.
• Leave drugs alone. The only thing most of the men in my family will tolerate is occasional weed or light drinking, and as a result we have less than a handful of drug addicts in a very large family. (that I know of) The younger men in my family are afraid of the older ones because they have been RAISED not just allowed to grow up and do whatever they pleased.

Now please understand, I am in no way claiming my family is perfect. But it's a very good, close, loving family. And most of the children in our family HAVE FATHERS! This is critical because do you think for one moment that if we females were to try to raise these boys by ourselves we could have achieved half this much success? I think we all know that answer. The first step in raising productive sons is the have a productive father in his life. The reason these boys are growing into untamed fools is because there are so many missing fathers in black homes! One thing we have to face is that when boys get to a certain age, they are NOT going to listen to you! They are going to emulate, imitate, and follow the men in their immediate surroundings. So if you are trying to raise your son in the hood by yourself-heaven help you! Because when he gets to that age, and starts imitating some of the monsters in the hood, you may find yourself  having to run from him!  Now please hear me, raising your sons in nice places is NOT a guarantee of a loving, productive, member of society. There are no guarantees. However, raising him in an impoverished wasteland (esp. alone-with no loving father to counter balance the negativity) almost guarantees him life long problems such as

• poverty mindset
• resentment that easily escalates into violence
• misogyny accompanied by violence against women
• learning difficulties (as some of these schools  in the hood are only interment camps, not learning institutions
• limited thinking, limited opptys, limited lives
• glorification of violence and drugs
• glorification of sexual indiscretion, and corresponding high stds.
• survival mode instead of designing a life mode...
• The greatest danger of any environment is the one of ACCEPTANCE!  

As the KKK once proclaimed, when you teach them well enough that they are inferior, ya won't have to send em to the back of the bus no more, they'll find their own way there...

The greatest danger of any child raised in a dilapidated, impoverished, and violent setting is that they begin to believe this is where they belong, This is ALL they can achieve, and this is as far as they can go. Once this failure transition takes place, then the chances of them being able to rise above their circumstances begins to plummet.

 

1. If we want to save our sons we have to take immediate action and that does not mean taking pictures with the sons we love and with a stupid caption saying he is not a threat. It means getting REAL fathers in their lives -not sperm donors. And make no mistake about it, just because you are a single mother does not mean you have to stay that way. There are plenty of good men who will love your child as their own..
2. Get the boys who can be saved, out of the hood. It kills me to say it but some of them are too far gone, and the time and energy would be better spent trying to save others.
3. If you feel the school your child is attending is not up to par, and you cannot afford to send him to a better one, then take an hour or two per day and study with him. It makes a tremendous difference believe me. I have a cousin whose son was failing, and declared to be ineducable by a very racist teacher. She went to Barnes and Noble and got reading material. she studied with him 2 hours per night 5 nights per week. The following year, He tested in 2nd place for the ENTIRE SCHOOL! Never accept someone else's estimate of YOUR child, you know him much better than they do...
4. Try to get him into some kind of sport, and keep him occupied. Studies show that kids who play sports are better off academically, socially, psychologically, and are usually in much better physical shape.
5. Whatever his gifts are -encourage them. I cannot emphasize enough the need to find a strong MALE mentor for impressionable young boys. This does not take the place of a good father-mind you, but it's a heck of a lot better than allowing the fools in the hood to mentor him..
6. Encourage him to think for himself and not be a slave to what is so called cool. Look around you the people who are too cool to follow the rules of society, are usually too broke, too high and too stupid to do much with their lives...
7. Get him the hell out of the hood. It's a dangerous and deadly place...

As much as it's hard to hard, it's hard to say but the black community WILL have to undergo a schism if we are to survive. We will have to cut off the people (and most of them will be men)  who have decided to turn our race into the black death, and ostracise them. I'm sure you all have people in your family whom you love, but have consciously or unconsciously decided to exclude from your life. Either they were into gangs, drugs, or other nefarious activity that you did not want in your life. That is what we as a collective need to do. We cannot allow any fool just because he shares a skin color to infiltrate our lives, and feel an obligation to take care of, and help him. Many bm not only look for bw to take care of them but expect them to. And many times will become violent when she refuses.
You know in the old times, the Vikings would throw dead bodies over the side of the boats. This kept the sharks happy and they were less likely to attack the boats. This is why they called it losing the dead weight. Many times today, you see bw bent over and breathing hard because she is carrying a lot of dead weight. Sometimes it's very precious weight to her because she gave birth to it. But even this fact does not necessarily make her safe....


If you have an older son whom you are afraid of, then by all means, take measures to protect yourself! Move away from him, do not give him a key to your house, don't hesitate to call the police if he threatens or hits you. Do NOT put yourself in peril trying to save the un-savable. When ppl are grown, and even when they are not quite there -you do NOT have to keep that child. If you fear for your life or the lives of your other children, then do something! Make arrangements for a strong man in your family to take your older un manageable son. If no one will, and he is doing drugs or threatening violence, have the police pick him up. I know women feel tremendous guilt over having their own child arrested, but MANY mothers are resting in their graves right now, because they refused to see the truth as it stood glaring before them. That their child was dangerous and out of control. And this applies to either sex. Girls can be just as deadly...
But that is off topic. All I want to say, and I welcome your input is that we need to come up with more productive ways to save our sons that a  silly ad saying we value them....
 

Learning to acknowledge and use your power of abundance...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Part 2.

What people who think the universe is conspiring against them, do not understand is that the universe WANTS you to prosper. (I come that they might have life and have it more abundantly...) Prosperous people are simply happier people. And before you tell me that money does not buy happiness. I agree, but sweety try being happy without it! How happy do you think mother's who have to watch their children go to bed hungry are? How many happy people do you think you'd encounter at the homeless shelter, I guarantee you they are few and far in between. How happy are you when you're broke? Lately we've heard of people losing their jobs and jumping off buildings. It's horrible to hear yet I can imagine how desperate and despondent they must' of felt....
 You owe it to your ancestors, your children, born and unborn, and most of all to yourself to be the most successful person you can be. Now it's a given that we cannot all be Oprah. There are very few like her. But we can certainly be successful at something. We can become financially secure, and live happy prosperous lives. The reason I advocate for women to open up to wealth and success so much, is because I know that ' if the money ain't right ain't nothing right' in ours lives. This is also the reason I strongly urge women to have a small business. Even if you keep your job have a business on the side. Have investments, have savings. HAVE A PLAN B and C...

 The first step with wealth is simply to recognize that it is your God given right and that you do NOT have to struggle. People never HAVE to struggle. They just do not realize it. Let me tell you some of the ways people inadvertently invite struggle into their lives. 

• When they get angry at rich people for being rich
• When they claim poverty ("I'll never have money.... money does not grow on trees.. why am I so poor!"
• When they steal from other people. (This is poverty consciousness at it's peak)
• When they try to destroy the things they think they'll never get, ie, cars, homes, belongings etc.
• When they tear down those who have little to nothing. (hurting the homeless, laughing and picking on innocent children from poor or broken homes etc....
• When they try to stop others from achieving their greatness because they were not blessed with those particular gifts. exp. Christine Agulera being beaten several times by girls in her school because she was a fabulous singer...
• Using illegal or unethical ways to obtain money, without regard to who gets hurt in the long run. (drug dealing to our children, prostituting vulnerable girls, stealing from the elderly etc. This type of behavior will not only invite poverty but also incite the wrath of karmic vengeance.

Karma is really true-I've seen it so many times in my life...

Know that the universe is watching and Karma IS in effect. No matter whether you believe in God or not. I'm sure you've noticed that when you do someone wrong, it's not long before an almost identical situation befalls you. How you use this to your advantage is to do right by people, and GIVE! Now I'm just not one to advocate to give endlessly to the church. I just don't buy it, and neither does hubby. We believe in giving 10% (We actually give more) but we give it to whatever cause we want. We tithe faithfully but not always to the church. But definitely give. It will open the storehouse of abundance for you....

Trust in the abundance of the universe.

Have you ever seen a single blade of grass growing all alone?  Have you ever seen a single cloud in the sky or a single mountain? You haven't have you? And you never will. Nature does NOT believe in scarcity and neither should you!  You can see evidence of this all around you. Everything nature does, she does it big and over the top. That's because her resources are infinite. Yours are as well! Right now you have talents in you that you may never know unless you decide to explore them.  Unless, they are brought out by tragedy, or unless they escape, and come out in a myriad of ways. I'm not kidding, trust me, whatever your talent is- you can rest assured-IT'S TRYING TO GET OUT! Why? Because everything God has given us is meant to be used. Did you know that a house that is vacant deteriorates 3x faster than a house that is being used? You are like that too. All your talents and abilities MUST be used or they will begin to atrophy.

Let the talent out!
But back to the subject of  unused talent. Think of a young poor farm girl by the name of Mary Anna Robertson, she was born in 1860 and had always wanted to paint. Her family discouraged this as they saw it as a wasteful endeavor, and obviously, needed her help on the farm. And so she was forbidden to indulge in this 'senseless;' pastime. She later married a farmer, and raised several children, yet never lost her yearning to paint. She would do so whenever she had a spare moment. Although half of her children perished, and she has eons of backbreaking farm work to do, she still managed to paint whenever she could. Her goal was not to seek attention, but rather to just do what she loved to do.  And she did this for years quietly. Simply doing what she loved. One day a man saw one of her paintings in a display window of a friend's store, and Grandma Moses was born. Her career really began that day in her 70s! and lasted after her death at the age of 101! Her paintings now go for over a million dollars! All that time while she was forbidden to paint, her talent was struggling to come out...
I don't believe we can ever really be free until we do whatever it is we were put on this earth to do.  How do we know? Because life is always dropping clues.  What are you doing or dreaming of doing when no one is around? What thought is in the back of your head day and night that causes you to think someday, I'll do ......
What do you love so much, that you'd do it for free? Have you ever heard the late Gerard Lavert sing?  Could you 'feel' his love for the music flowing though the lyrics? Have you ever heard Les Brown give a motivational speech? The love he has for his craft is almost palpable! They were MEANT to do those things. There is something that YOU are meant to do, and if you don't do it, then you will never know true fulfillment in life. And truly, there is nothing worse in life, then dying with the music inside. Whatever it is that you push down inside of yourself daily-let it fly. Let it soar, and see how much happiness, success and fulfillment it brings you....

Have faith, and know that you were meant to do GREAT things!

Know that if you are here, then you are special and are meant to do great things. Thousands of sperm cells did not make it during conception, but you did! That should tell you that you're something special. Have faith and really picture where you want your life to go. Wherever it is the simplest way to get there is to make every move in that direction. You know this already. You probably just needed a little reminder. But if you want to be the next Wolfgang Puck, you should be in culinary school. You should be studying every chance you get. You should be studying his life, and finding out what steps he took.
 You should also be VISUALIZING THAT LIFE! Think visualizing does not work? Imagine what happens when a friend fake-attacks you. Your heart speeds up, and slams against your chest. Your breathing gets shallow, and you involuntarily jump. But why? You were not really being attacked. It's because your subconscious cannot tell the difference between a real and imagined experience!  Did you really understand what I just said? Your inner mind cannot tell between a real and imagined experience! This is what makes visualization so potent!!! This means we can trick our minds into thinking things are whatever way we want in our lives, and if we hold the picture long enough, and strong enough (strong emotion, really feel it happening) it will certainly come to fruition! This is why star athletes spend hours per day doing exactly that. Because they already know-it works! A picture held (sustained) in the mind, with tremendous desire, and emotion has almost no choice but to come to fruition...
Let me give you an example of this. Our baby who is 4 now loves and adores the Power rangers. He spends countless hours talking about, and imitating everything the power rangers do. Well  for weeks now he has been asking for a power ranger outfit. But since its not Halloween, we told him it could wait until then. He however, was determined to have that outfit as soon as possible, and has been talking about it non stop. Well a few days ago I tucked him in bed after he'd said his prayers, and I noticed he still had his hands together and had re closed his eyes. I knew he was adding another prayer.
 "Dev, honey" I murmured. "What else are you praying for?"
"Nothing mommy" he quickly told me, but I heard a crinkle under his pillow. Sliding my hand along underneath, I pulled out a picture of a power ranger in a crisp red uniform. He quickly snatched it away from me and hid it back in it's place. I kissed him, and left the room, knowing exactly what he had been praying for. The same thing he'd been asking for, for weeks.  The very next day my sister dropped by and told me she was at the mall and had wandered into a store she'd never gone in before looking for a bathroom. She said a man had been unboxing Halloween costumes to carry to the back when she spotted a particular one. She said it was the weirdest thing but as soon as she saw it, she thought of her nephew, and 'knew' she had to have it.  Before she even pulled it from the bag, I knew it would be the red power ranger costume that my son had been praying for, asking for, and imagining for weeks.........
Never doubt your ability to draw into your life what you want. Simply FOCUS on it. Dream about it. Talk about and visualize it (with emotion) and then work toward it. - you WILL get it...

Have faith, for there is a power in you greater than anything you're ever known- If only you would choose to use it- unknown

Belief-nothing works as well as belief...

Mark 11:23 - For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

This is a lesson we can learn from children. When they want something, they are tenacious. They plead, cajole, cry, beg, and if all else fails, they will even work to get what they want! I remember back in the day when I was a girl scout. We sold cookies door to door. My goal at that time was to buy my beloved grandmother coffee pot (as hers had recently stopped working). They were having a big contest at that time and whomever one was going to get 100.00! At that time to a child, that was a fortune. I set out to win. I took 2 of my older cousins and worked all over town. My family had been prominent in this town for a long time, and my grand parents name carried a lot of weight. It seemed I only had to mention their names and people readily opened their wallets. I was making so many sales I barely noticed someone across the street...
 It was a poor girl I knew from school named Donna. She was working alone, as she had little family, and less resources. She was always tired, dirty, and hungry-looking. At school she was often laughed at and maltreated due to her shabby clothes. I mentally brushed her aside when I saw her pitiful form at people's doors. After all, she was ragged, dirty, and poor looking. Who would buy cookies from her? I thought contemptuously. I remember it being semi cold around that time and she was wearing a threadbare coat, and shivering but she did not stop. We could only sell till 8 Friday night, and then the contest was over. At the meeting that next week, I as sure I'd won. I had so many sales I had to get a 2nd sheet, and my very well known, and well loved grandmother had gone to the meeting with me. When they announced the top 3, it was me, Donna and another girl. The other girl took 3rd and then they announced that the top 2 had collectively sold over 5000 worth of cookies! Everyone gasped. I smiled smugly at Donna, sure I'd won. But a moment later, I was shocked to hear my name called as runner up, and Donna was the winner! She broke down and cried as she accepted her check. I couldn't believe it, I just stood stunned. She explained that although it was cold, and sometimes rainy, she was determined to get that money for food. She said whenever she was too tired to go on, she would pray for more strength and somehow kept finding one more sale, and then another...
You see although I had tons of resources, family, clout, warm cars, and warm coat. She had something far more potent. She had a fervent desire to feed her family. She had  a powerful  WHY! That check meant only another doll to me, but to her it was a lifeline. It meant food and possibly a warm coat. Nothing takes the place of a belief coupled with a powerful why. It will keep you going when nights are long and cold. It will make you get back up when you fall... If you find that you cannot motivate yourself to do whatever it is that you need to do to improve your life -try getting a better and bigger why...


Have faith, know that you can have whatever you want to have. Simply pay the price and take it away...                   -unknown           
 

how to attract money! (part 1)

The problem with money is that people think of money as something to go out and catch, and then use it to get what they want. They think in terms of "I gotta buy this or I gotta buy that, so I need to make more money!"
They don't see money as an entity that has a life-force of it's own. Now mind you I said life force not life. The difference is that pretty much everything has a life-force because we and everything around us is made up of the same material-that being energy. Scientists have already established that all material in life boils down to energy-including human beings. Only the vibrational rate is different. In other words, a plant is alive just as you are, yet it does not have the same level of consciousness because it's vibrational rate is different.  If you put a plant under a microscope, and a piece of human flesh under a microscope, they will both boil all the way down to the same material, but one (human) will be vibrating at a much higher velocity. What does this have to do with making money? Simply that people who make really large amounts of money have been shown time and again to have a money consciousness. A higher vibrational pull that seems to attract money. Now you may think I've fallen off the deep end, but realize that only people who never read anything but smut. already know this. It's been written about, talked about, and substantiated for years.

Some of the ways you can attune your mind to have a money consciousness are:

• Write down how much you want to have, and when
• Write down what you are willing to give in exchange for this largess (the universe is a give and take type organism
• Write down 5-10 things you really love to do
• Write down 10 ways you could possibly make money doing them
• Take 15 minutes 2x a day and really feel the money, imagine it so strongly you can feel the emotions of actually holding it.
• Carry that feeling with you, and imagine that you are quite wealthy. Now carry yourself as you imagine wealthy people do. It has been proven time and again that the feeling of wealth creates wealth, just like  the feeling of poverty creates poverty.... And this is why many millionaires will say things like;

"Oh I was rich when I didn't have 2 nickels to rub together,  the money just wasn't in the bank yet"


 Not going to go much deeper into that. You are welcome to look up and study that at your will. But I really want to talk about money because it's a subject so many of us have trouble with when it's does not need to be that way at all. You are attracting or repelling money with your thoughts and subsequent actions. If what you are doing is not working then for heaven's sake -stop and re-evaluate what you should do to get what you want, (ie money)
People put a lot of fear around money, and fear is a REPELLENT. Or to put it another way, it's an opposite attractant. This is why people who fear losing their relationships often do, or a dog you fear is much more likely to bite you. You can take this one step further and look around for examples people often get exactly what they fear most. In the case with money, people often fear not having enough, and so they often don't.
The way to think of money is not as something to go out and work for, and work for, and work for. The way to think of money is I'll work hard for you, and then you're going to work hard for ME!  The relationship should be one of mutual respect-for money never stays where it's not respected. Think of it as you want to treat money well, you want to respect it, and get it to stay. You want it to meet other money and have lots of babies. I know that's a very simplistic analogy but putting it like that will make it much clearer for some people. To put it ever simpler, don't squander it, respect it, and do what the rich do.

So I know your next question:  What do the RICH DO?

It's simple. They buy things that will APPRECIATE!  They buy assets. And speaking of assets I know a lot of people think their house is an asset because the bank listed it as one, or calls it one. The reason the bank calls your house an asset is because it is- for them! It appreciates in value, and pays a dividend. That's the definition of an asset! But it's a liability for you- make no mistake about it. Yes it's a necessary liability, but a liability nevertheless. And this is why you should NOT be trying to have the biggest house in the neighborhood. Look at what happened to Hammer... If you've ever seen cribs, you seen many of the same blk celebs who boast the biggest, and  most beautiful houses are  the same ones declaring bankruptcy right and left. This is because their empires were built on shaky foundations to start

a. The premise that they would continue to have profitable work; what if their career dries up?
What if there is a scandal that results in loss of interest- (ie fame/money)?
What if they are injured and can no longer play the sport that enabled them to make millions?
What if one too many baby-mommas take them to court, and the subsequent atty fees annihilate their finances? Make no mistake about it, Attorney fees have been known to bring strong men to their knees....

Ladies you've got to get ASSETS!  Because when times are hard, your assets will feed you while your liabilities will try to eat you alive.  Think of assets as Income producing vehicles -which appreciate in value. This is why your house although it appreciates is NOT an asset (to you). It is not income producing for you, but is for the bank. This is why it IS an asset for the bank. Some of the best assets for regular Americans are as follows;

stocks -simply follow the trends and you'll do very well
bonds
Real Estate -best asset of all for most people
venture capitalist- Have to really study and know what you're doing in this area
Investing in things you and your friends use everyday= this is an easy simple way to invest wisely...

Some other money tips
Money attracts money-so save 20% not just as a hedge against inflation as many people do, but as an attractant for more money. This also is extremely stress relieving. The more money you have in the bank-the better you'll find yourself sleeping....

Start a small home business, save tremendously on your taxes. You can write off many things with a home business, and even pay your children up to 400.00 per month to help you, instead of allowance. You can write off trips as business expenses (provided you do some business while there) and lots of other stuff can be written off, gas, food, etc (Use a good CPA,) and find out how much you can save..


Intangible Assets...
To build a good wealth foundation, it's so important to take a analysis of your assets. And this includes the tangible and intangible ones. Because at some point in life you will have to draw on every strength within you to deal whatever life throws at you. If you have no idea what your strengths and weaknesses are, you will be in a world of hurt. This is why people are losing their jobs and jumping off buildings. They have never taken inventory of their assets. They don't know that the job being taken from them was just the universe's way of jolting them out of their stupor, and forcing them to use intangible assets and grow. You are always meant to grow. As you age you are supposed to grow in wisdom, peace, temperament, and wealth. If you don't recognize your assets both tangible and intangible for what they are, people WILL try to take them, make no mistake about it. You see this at play when people with great talent, sell themselves very short. In my sister's neighborhood, all her neighbors use a specific plumber who is really quite talented at his trade. The problem is he sells his 'work' so cheaply, he can barely afford to feed his family. He only charges about 15% over the cost of the materials to work like a dog for hours! I watched my own sister give him one forth of what he should have gotten one day at her house. When I asked her why she did not pay him more, She looked up and me, and snapped. "Well, I gave him what he asked for-why would I give him more?"
And that's exactly the summation of it. Nobody, even nice people will not respect your talents (intangible asset) if you don't. They'll take them at prices so low your family will be on starvation rations. That's why it's so important to respect your IAs. Speaking of that, did you know that Microsoft is NOT Bill Gate's invention? The rumor is that he actually bought it from another genius for only 50.000 and stiffed them on all royalties! Like I said, even nice, or seemingly nice people will use your talents/assets and leave you broke. Don't sell yourself short because if you don't have your own back, I can promise you no one else will either.

So we will go into more depth at a later date....
Thank you for tuning in-see you soon..



 

Sotomayer, and the Rise of the deadly, damaged, and lethal!

 

Black men who hate bw are not only soul destroying but deadly, and must be avoided at all costs.

Below the damaged beyond belief TS....

Just as Evia predicted a few years back the war against bw has taken on a viciousness that takes one's breath away. The open hatred many so called 'brothers' are displaying is truly heart-stopping!
 Ladies for God's sake RUN! They are too crazy to reason with, so damaged, deadly, and dedicated to their hate filled quests, They are on a mission to make bw everywhere pay for her supposed crimes. Much the way the old time KKK used to find a hapless victim and make an example of the poor soul. These animals are out for blood and I'm sure the KKK is somewhere laughing as this new breed of bw hating fools do their dirty work.

For those of you who don't know there is a new sick twisted animal Called Tommy Sotomayer. He's on you tube calling for bw to be maimed, beaten, and murdered! He is so sick with hatred and misogyny, you can almost feel demons jumping out of him.
Here are a few of his (and his sick followers) latest demented rants

KN.                                                         

These Hoodrats & Whores (so-called strong black women) will f*ck anybody that tells them what they wants to hear and get pregnant within 3 months of meeting this pavement ape. Then magically, the father of the child just splits... Just like that right? Then the child is raised by a worthless female deadbeat that tells them that their father is a worthless deadbeat. Totally the man's fault right? Don't blame the b#tch at all for opening her fu*#ing legs to an irresponsible d@ck she hardly knows.
(curse words removed)

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I remember watching roots when Kunta Kinte ran away to meet Fanta to run away with her from the slave masters. It hurt my heart to hear Fanta say: "know I'm not going. I rather be safe, I rather be warm than cold, i rather be fed than hungry". And it's not what fanta said. But what she said is the exact life style of the black women today. They will NOT rebel with black men. They rather to conform to a system that cure nothing about them. That's why the majority of black men are in prison today.

   

      

RW                                                       

i am with tommy all that you was saying is bullshit women do put men down calling us down low we also make up the population in all the prisons and it is due to women not playing there roles i want a thug as bitches and you so called women cant keep your own kind in check but yet and still you always check us men have more rules then u so called black women give your kids i know i am guilty cause i been trying to destroy black women since i was 14 its not us who will fade its your beastly ways

NOTOR..                                                     

hating ass hoe's always trying to keep us black males down so go suck a dick hoe

 

These hateful black men has dropped the ball...I just seen a video on the upcoming rapper Lil snupe Tommy did and this bastard somehow blamed a Black Woman for this boys murder by another Black man! (not surprising bw are responsible for EVERY neg. consequence in a bm's life-even when she's not there!)

 

    I honestly think the best ways to deal with sadistic, coonified lunatic  such as this Tommy and his salivating slaves, is to get as far away as possible. I don't think bw realize how much danger they are in as long as they chose to live, work, associate, and even breed with or near these brain dead misogynistic zealots. Realize ladies, that thoughts breed words, and words breed ACTION. You must take this serious. This man is encouraging his minions to hate, harm, and kill bw, and I can promise you sooner or later they WILL! Be proactive get away from these damaged animals while you can. Complain to YouTube about him, sign the petition by the arch duchess to have him removed, but do so from a safe distance. Yes, he's a slobbering disgusting piece of garbage, but so was Hitler and look what happened! Notice also that damaged men repeatedly talk about ridiculous nonsense such as fake hair, while they are out KILLING other black men, they are talking about bw's  HAIR!!! As is hair is doing drive bys, Hair is filling the prisons, Hair is making and leaving babies all over the US! It's just too silly to address. Ladies if you have not done so make plans to get the hell out of the hood. It's Rwanda  all over again, especially with the new Neo-misogynistic blood thirsty animals who are making US their prey......

live and love, and don't give becky the attention she craves...

Okay, wanted to let you ladies know what's going on. When I was forced to start black woman's guide... I could not get the old blog name back (don't know why) but a friend of mine somehow got it back with 2012 added. So it's  Interracial love and spice2012
so the name is changed that's all. I'm going to throw a few old posts in to get the name into the search engines, so if you see old material at the start-that's why...... whew it's good to have the old name back-I really like it....

You ladies are REALLY changing! It's so wonderful to see and experience! The following letter illustrates what I am talking about. In the past, when ww have tried valiantly to make bw jealous, all she had to do was simply let it be known that she was dating/marrying/or seeing a bm. That was the past. Things are definitely changing. With more and more bw dating/mating and marrying wm. We finally seem to be coming to the point where we no longer give a damn!! HOORAY!!!  This is the healthiest attitude you ladies can take on. It's ridiculous to stomp and scream when you see bm with other women. She's really doing you a favor -taking the 'problem' off your hands. You really should make her some homemade cookies as a thank you...

I liken it to if you have a beautiful home (relationship) and you meet someone bragging about their beautiful home, you will probably be happy for them, but not impressed. If, on the other hand, you live in a shack and someone is bragging about their beautiful home, you may be angry and jealous because it's something you desperately want and feel you have no way to attain it. The same can be said for men. The more you bw mate and date out with quality, worthwhile men the less impressed, affected or angry you will be about ww with bm. You should in fact (NOT GIVE A DAMN!) at all regardless. But if you have a good man in your life, you will have no trouble projecting this indifferent air.

I have noticed that many ww complain about bw being mean and evil and having attitudes about seeing them with bm. And may I add that 2 of my 3 white Aunts are some of the meanest women you've ever met. Especially Aunt Tina. ( But I love them all dearly) Anyway, like I said many ww complain about bw having attitudes about seeing them with bm, but will do everything but a somersault to get a bw's attention when she is with a bm, and then get agitated if she is ignored! I am convinced many ww like this drama!!! It sounds crazy because they are supposed to be so docile and easygoing, but I think that's just another false myth. Many ww WANT to see bw get riled up and angry about them being with bm. It seems to feed their hungry egos. It's not working too well anymore, because more and more bw are starting to realize most bm are definitely not worth getting all upset over, and that non-blk mates seem to be making much better husbands/fathers these days anyway. Read the following letter and see if you believe this woman was really asking an innocuous question, or if, (like me) you believe she was just trying to provoke a response from bw in order to feed her overinflated ego.

The most significant part of this post however, is that almost all the bw on the board made it clear they did not care anymore!! Go y'all, in fact some were dating white and made it clear they were perfectly content. This is the power of living your life YOUR way.......Read the following.....

Question- to panel from agitated becky.

Why do black woman hate me because I am dating a successful black man.?
When ever my fiancée and I go out to the club the woman hate on me because I'm white and he's a successful black man he's an engineer. Is it just pure and simple jealousy2 weeks ago
It's not just me assuming they hate me they have made comments and given me dirty looks like I have done something wrong and taken another man from them or something. I dearly love this man why can't they just butt out.

Comment 1 (WM)it really isn't towards you, its towards him. it seems from what I have heard from my black female friends is that when a black man becomes successful, he ignores black women and purposely seeks out white women which tells them that they are not good enough. what they feel the "white man" has done to them (male and female) they are reiterating by dating white. like a trophy. my wife is black and we actually get dirty looks from white people, male and female but not black people. weird. we cannot help who we fall in love with. ignore them. act like they are not even there and enjoy your man.
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Comment 2 (bw)most successful black men date and marry black women. only 9% of black men are with white women. it's a small percentage. but. "why do black woman hate me because I am dating a "successful" black man?" "he's also very "handsome." - maybe because you WANT black women to get riled up...it seems you are looking for some sort of validation. imo your question seems to want controversial answers...you know what I'm saying?...edit: handsome? successful? you know what I read your Q again with the additional details and i couldn't help myself. seriously. I find it pathetic. admit it you just want to get black women riled up. YOU KNOW black women are having trouble with successful black men. (not true for all of them but the majority) which is why this Q was asked in the first place. damn you are one nasty as hell cavebitch arent you?

Comment 3 (BW)Is this a serious question? I'm just gonna assume it is and answer by saying that Black women are often given the shitty end of the stick when it comes to dating. Many of us sistas feel like Black men are all we have left.That said, I could care less who you, or anyone else dates..Because I am a Black woman who chooses NOT to limit herself to Black men=)

Comment 4 (BW)Im black and a woman, Sorry im I sposed to care about someone i dont know and couldnt give a fig about...Errr guess tht slipped your mind, that many people couldnt give a toss wether u were dating a zebra or a iguana..or a black, pink, purple person....!

Comment 5 (BW)I'm black and I wouldn't care cuz I don't date black men anyway. too many bad experiences. But it's probably the same reason white women glare, stare, and scoff when they see me with my gorgeous white husband. ;-PYou shouldn't let it bother you.I don't.

Comment 6 (WW)it probably has nothing to do with blackness, and you are probably just being paranoid, i wouldn't worry

Comment 7 (WW)
I think you think to highly of yourself, dear.

This is such a welcome change from what you normally read. I see more and more bw waking up and its wonderful. The thing to keep in mind is that many times ww are just trying to get a reaction by doing things like flipping the hair, grabbing his arm, kissing all the sudden etc. It's almost comical to watch. I have no problem with it at all. But what I do have a problem with is when it's in reverse, bw are often harassed, intimidated, and even threatened to keep them from exercising their own options. BM can be with their coveted ww and still try to give the bw 'death glares'. WW can be quite nasty as well, when they want. Apparently it's news to them that wm ARE very much attracted to us! Even as the numbers grow, they will still claim it's just a few BW, and only the bw who resemble Halle are sought by WM. They could not be more wrong! Self delusion is soooo funny! Bottom line, we have no problem with you dating/mating or marrying Tyrone, Becky. We just hope you can handle us dating/mating /marrying Bob, Billy, Dennis, Trevor etc.....

Taking back our image, and putting bw FIRST!!

Whatever type of image we ALLOW is what we will see!!!
































Ever notice how many industries are built on the backs of bw? Many shops run by non-blks in the inner cities would dry up and go away without the patronage and MONEY of blk women. Starting but not limited to the hair salons, hair stores, cosmetic stores, some restaurants, and even some general stores. The truth is blk women are prolific consumers, and many a business is built around her livelihood. Many rappers would be 'rapping' in their basements if blk women did not buy their drivel. Yet they have the nerve to call the call the very women keeping them fed horrible names, and slander bw before the world. Many movie producers would only be dreaming of making movies if blk women did not frequent their movies to give them support.  A few that come quick to mind are, John Singleton, Spike Lee, and Tyler Perry, but there are many more. Many big name athletes would be small time nobodies if bw had not helped them through college, during college, or to get into college in the first place! Usually this is done through church, family, or community donations. Yet most of the time the minute these men make it, they leave for greener pastures, and call the women who helped them -hood rats. Think about it for a moment. If bw had not declared to the world how sexy, fine, charismatic and wanted men like Denzel, Morris C. Boris, Taye digs,  Makakai (sp?) and a ton of others, these men would still be hungry actors looking for their big breaks. Some of the highest paid or most sought out bm actors in the world owe their predominant success to bw. Some of those names include Samuel, Lawrence Fishburn, Don Cheatle, Terrance Howard, Cuba, Wesley, Jamie foxx, Eddie Murphy, Forest Whittaker Will Smith etc. Trust and believe before it even came to the big screen, there were bw in their families helping them out with money, time, coaching, support etc. When they got small parts, bw came out in droves to give them support when the media didn't know or care to know who they were. This also goes for comedians, and many other high profile bm.  Many of the same bm now claiming bw don't know which fork to use -so they can't date her. Are the same men who used to sing a different tune when he had no fork of his own. My point is this, you have much more power than you realize, if someone is being disrespectful, or demeaning-simply cut ties. You don't need to curse someone out, simply refuse to buy their records, see their films/shows/concerts etc. Action ALWAYS speaks louder than words. An actor is only as good as his last film, and a singer/rapper is only as good as their last record. So when Taye digs takes digs at the bw, and makes snide remarks about us-simply refuse to watch his shows/movies. When damaged Wesley (who busted Halle's ear-and then had to nerve to say bw don't know how to conduct themselves) has a movie, simply boycott it. When damaged roach-looking little Wayne is claiming that B*tches are only pretty when their light skinned/white. Let the light skinned and white women keep his sorry, disturbed ass in business! Ladies there is a much more effective way to fight ppl you keep in business- and that is with YOUR POCKET BOOKS!  The truth is there are thousands of industries built on the backs of bw or who would succumb without her. We MUST make them toe the line and not be allowed to continue putting garbage up that smears, and denigrates us. Have you noticed that every new trash talk show grabs some foolish acting bw/ppl and makes an ass of her/them on national tv? Everyone is using us for ratings-at our expense. It used to be just Jerry Springer who never has a talk show. It was always a Trash show. Now you have Trish somebody, Jeremy Kyle, Rickey Lake is back and some other wg all using bw/bp to get rich while making us all look like jackasses in the process. And lets not forget how Maury turned his show into baby momma drama and got very rich off stupid women telling all of America they were not sure of the paternity of their child's father. But notice he NEVER uses ASIAN women! That's because his very Asian wife reportedly told him she had better not ever see Asian women being exploited on national tv-or made to look like tramps! Ladies IMAGE is EVERYTHING! Why? Because perceptions becomes reality. We cannot afford to let the world simply exploit us for their own selfish gain, at our expense. Anyone notice that since shallow hal there has not been another movie picking on fat white women?  That's because ww caused such a fuss, and made such a racket the studio promised to be more considerate (TO THEM) in the future. What did they do to fill the void of malicious humor left by angry ww. You guessed it. They simply filled it with fat, unattractive or uncouth bw. You can see this play out time and again. Commercials with neck twisting frumpy-looking bw saying things like
" uhhhh huhhh , ummm giiiirrrrrllll- you right that cleaner ain't got nuthin on my PineSol"
 Or Mammy type films in which a big ugly bw is the happy handmaiden to a pretty wg and is saying
"Ms Scarlet pleaz eet fo meh now use gon be ungry iffnt ya don't"
Sometimes I'm so embarrassed I want to scream. Movies made by bm seem to be the worst.
Wanda-Shanaynay,  Norbit, Big Mamma's House etc. Then there is the music, (and I use this term loosely) that taunts us and constantly calls us names;  dark butts, fat ass, bitches, hoes, hood rats, ugly ass women, Nappy headed hoes, etc. I don't even want to recall anymore it's too upsetting.  My point is there are a whole lot of ppl invested in /hurting/using or simply exploiting bw for various reasons for their own gain. It's time we stopped allowing it. It's time we take our power back. Vote with your feet. Refuse to go to movies that deem to exploit, demean or sully us.  Refuse to listen to C-rap music. Boycott products that use neck twisting, ghetto-acting bw. Nothing changes until WE change. Until we fight -until we wake up.  We owe it ourselves and the future generation of little bgs coming behind us to change this mess. To make it a better, brighter, safer, and more loving world for them.  And we already know Hollywood follows the MONEY trail. You can trace almost any and all behavior back to the money. This is why we are seeing more and more movies, commercials, etc with bw/non blk men because Hollywood knew probably before many bp that bw were ready to venture out and mate/marry other men. They also know that these couples have higher incomes than average, are more highly educated, and usually stay together stubbornly. Never give your power away. You CAN change things. with your vote, with your protests, with your money, and with your stubborn refusal to go along with whatever script someone has written for you. This was concisely told to me by  my sister blogger on a prior post

Halima said...

The only time I can remember that I can actually applauding black women for doing something smart for a change was when back in the 90s they took down Wesley Snipes a peg or two when he appeared on the cover of an Ebony that had an interview of him in it where the fool was saying, in a magazine read by black women, that black women act like a difficult bunch of women 'to come home to'. BW finally publicly and vocally let it be known that they didn't have to stand back, listen to or support his mess. I think that that little lesson was why Eriq La Salle on ER decided to publicly tell people that he world only partnered with black SO's on the show. If anything he could get that bit of a boost from BW!

Ak you have made such an important point, when bw refuse to honor themselves no one honors them. You honor yourself by dealing heavy blows on whoever (and I mean whoever) will ‘mess’ with you. Its so simple no one needs to be taught this basic dynamic of human interaction that is except bw.

Essentially bw have rewarded bm for po** on them and then they turn round and wonder why their honor is besmirched left right and center. SMH have you ever seen a clearly confused bunch of women who cant make the clear connection between their situation at the hands of bm now and their unconditional approval and support of them.

Everyone 'tests' boundries and need 'reminders' to not get ideas. what happened is that bm tested the boundaries and found no one awake and ready to take them down for their mess on bw. Any wonder the proliferation of bw image-defilers among bm.

When this, ‘always try to support a brother’ or ‘don’t be too hard on a brother’ mantra took over it spelled death for bw’s image. Our young girls need to be taught a new mantra, that ‘you must never love bm more than you love yourself’ or ‘love your community more than you love and care for yourself’.

BW sent a clear message to the likes of Wesley snipes then, I wonder what happened and why they decided to be less vigilante and soft on brothers after, and the rewards are with us. Unconditional love and support and giving black men blank cheques over our image and how to present it has lead to this disgraceful situation.

You have to be willing to slay anyone to protect your image because even allowinging the smallest hole in the dam and the next thing, the whole structure comes down (ask the Netherlanders)

And you are right ak, it is the infrastructure of the love and support and protection and efforts of bw that are holding up these black male entertainers and their mess. If only bw organized and pulled the plug…..

(M)- ESSENCE Lying letter, another tactic to keep BW bound and gagged....

They would much rather see you in pic 1 or 2
than 3-4 even at the expense of your  peace of mind  and happiness....

So I heard about the ridiculous letter at M essence mag, and couldn't resist going to take a look.
Actually all I can really say is that anyone silly enough to believe this letter is real-I've got a piece of the Brooklyn bridge to sell you. I actually posted a copy below so you can see for yourself how ridiculous and contrived this so-called letter is. I'm not surprised they are coming out with this tactic, what is surprising to me is that some bw are actually buying into it. I mean you would practically have to have taken the little yellow bus to school to believe this one!
It supposedly is written by a bw (yeah right) who claims her white hubby is calling her  racially defamatory names during sexual intercourse. She claims to have had the money to go to an I.L.S. yet later quits her job at his suggestion and does not have the means to leave him! Even as he smears her with slurs and epithets, she claims to love him in unmitigated fashion, and find him oh so handsome, faithful and generous!  Now think for a minute do any of you ladies describe someone you are lividly angry at in such glowing terms?

She also says that her husband who is American, has joked about 'owning' her people  (who are NOT American -mind you) and refers to her hair as 'good hair'!  Now I have to ask even the most gullible of us -when was the last time you heard a wm use the term 'good hair!!!' If that statement alone does not alert you to the REAL author of  this letter -a BLACK MAN- then I'm a little worried about you...

Here are some other obvious clues...
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1. The (alleged)  author claims to be an Ivy league Graduate but her poor sentence structure, and colloquial language paint a picture of a far more mundane education.

2. She intimates that she's only staying with hubby for financial reasons _this ties in perfectly with the lie bm constantly tell about bw only wanting wm for money (as if they ALL have money).

3. She mentions how his insults, and epithets grow increasingly cruel, yet she continues to stay-how many bw will let a wm get away with this?

4.  She has, or claims to have the dedication, wherewithal, and stamina to finish an ILS!-yet quits
her job at his mere suggestion, and depends solely on him for her support and sustenance-even though there are no children for her to care for yet!

5.  She asks asinine questions like "How can I regain attraction for my husband?"  and  "please tell me this is not the norm for IR relationships!"  Does this really sound like a bw to you? Or does it sound more like a bm  Mimicking a bw?

6. The letter makes it abundantly clear that she is merely a fetish to him- How many men MARRY their fetish!!

There are more clues, but I think you get the jist. This letter is faker than a cubic zirconium. But what is most telling and notable are the large amount of bm on the Essence board talking about it. Last I heard Essence was a WOMEN'S magazine! Why would they be there? And why the uproar over a fake letter (which of course they are trying to pass off as real) when there is hardly a peep over all the  real horrors visited upon bw on a daily basis at the hands of bm? Since I was the child of a marine, I have lived all over the US. And I can tell you that 3-4 times when I was referred to as a b*tch or N-word to my face, it was at the hands of black men -not white. You can turn on any radio and hear bm calling us the B-word the H-word, or the N-word like it was going out of style. And now you are telling me that they are so angry and up in arms because a wm allegedly said it? Bull!
I will tell you what is really going on behind the feigned rage these fools are displaying. They are angry alright-but not at this fake letter. They are angry because their livestock is getting away! As more and more bw open their options and escape-they were at first non-plussed and cavalier. Then they became just a tad more nervous as the numbers increased. But now bw-wm are the fastest growing IR coupling -and they are becoming enraged.
So their feigned anger at this alledged wm and his racial slurs is all the excuse they need to tell bw -

 "See we  don tole you so!  Dem whate mens only wants t' git n ya drawels and din he gon call yu a n*gga!"
"Yu ain't neva gon realle be hs wife -jus his bed wennch!"

Now think about it for a moment. If this man really wanted to  emotionally abuse-and racially debase this woman-do you really think he would have MARRIED HER! He would have done exactly what bm do everyday. a.  Come by and use her and go on about his business.  or b. went to a prostitute and taken out his racial animus on her.  The clues are so glaring I simply cannot believe anyone actually fell for this letter but I guess some ppl have a vested interest in this drivel being portrayed as truth, namely bm and the now editors of M essence which is now headed by 2 WHITE WOMEN AND A BLACK MAN! All the more reason why any self respecting bw would steer clear of this garbage rag, and it's infectious lies that pass as veracity...
Below is the ridiculous letter-read it and tell me do you think this non sense is real?....

                         
Dear ------,

My man keeps calling me a “nigger bitch” during sex and I hate it.

I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the ivy league school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.

We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.

I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “nigger lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.

I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people can use the word and he cannot. I don’t use the word or believe in the nigga/nigger differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say: “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”

Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.

My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.

How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?