Taking poison in small doses!

As I've said before, many  bw lead lives of pain and quiet desperation because they are being fed small doses of poison daily. When a bm bus driver is applauded and showered with commendation from the bc for punching a woman so hard he could have killed her, that is shot of poison directed at ALL bw.  When a world renowned R&B singer can molest a little blk 12 yr old on tape and not only escape jail, but have the whole community turn on the poor child (and see her as an overly grown slut-who seduced him!) That's poison directed at bw.
When a beautiful young bg college student refuses the advances of a ne-er-to-to-well loser with nothing to offer her, and is subsequently murdered because she refused him, that's poison being shoved down bw throats. To make this senseless crime even worse, many bm, on the poisonous board this cowardly bm frequented, not only encouraged him to( kill the b*%ch), but celebrated when he actually did!!!
When  nearly 80% of blk babies are born out of wedlock, yet somehow a bw is expected to raise healthy happy productive children all by herself, and if she ever falters and needs to OMG!-WELFARE!  she is considered a dreg,and slug on the system. Now I am not making excuses for women who become unwed mothers and then cry foul. Because I truly believe if you CHOOSE to have a baby without a mate, In most cases, you are asking for trouble. Emotional trouble,- as you will be your child's only parent. Financial trouble as many bm DO NOT TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN-and you will -in most cases have to be the sole provider. You will also most likely have physical trouble. Trying to raise your child, taking him places, helping with projects etc. And let us not forget discipline- (try handling a 14 yr old kid once he grows taller than you! Having babies out of wedlock is a bad idea all around. This is why other cultures actively discourage their daughters from doing it-even to the point of making them feel repulsive shame. Only dysfunctional bp would encourage such stupidity. The cost to the mother and left behind children is just too high, and may cost greatly for years of time....  But as I said this IS a form of poison because bm are not expected to marry the mothers of their children (unlike their white counterparts) It is seen as perfectly ok for him to abandon innocent children and a desperate mother. She is told she is a strong bw, and encouraged to be exactly that, even to the point of mental collapse. She is also constantly encouraged/coaxed to give, give, give- to the point where she may have nothing left, but is still encouraged to keep on giving! You can see this dynamic played out in the blk church. Where bw often do 95% of the work, yet it is the MEN who reap the rewards and benefits from their arduous efforts.
For instance I have a friend whose mother resides in a very blk enclave, and refuses to leave. Ms Helen is retired and is on SS, yet works almost continually at the church. One month her mother ran short on cash due to taking things to the church, cooking, cleaning and doing many other things for them. She used up all her money on gas, and provisions for them. Anyway my friend pleaded with her to take it easy and not go running to the church whenever they called. She then gave her broke mother 100.00 for food to hold her off until her ss money came in. Ms Helen planned to buy food that next day,  but the next day at church the First Lady informed them that the Pastor's anniversary was the next wk, and anyone who was a real member of this church would give at least 75.00 so that they could make him a money tree. Now keep in mind the Pastor of her church drives a BENTLEY! She has a 13 yr old station wagon that uses so much gas, the  local gas stations all know her by name. When she hesitated, and told them that her daughter had only given her 100 dollars, and that she needed it for food, and gas. She was immediately berated and told to think about her salvation and GIVE TO GOD'S CHURCH! Not only did they take 75 of her 100 but they the nerve to tell her they needed her to bring the cake next week, knowing she now had no money to buy the ingredients as the remaining 25 had to go into the tank!
Yet many bw are used in this manner EVERYDAY. Esp. older bw who are known to have great cooking skills, or other needed attributes they can be used for. Younger bw often face daily challenges strong enough to stop a heart. Many are sexually, or physically harassed, derided because of skin color, under constant attack whenever they leave their homes, or even in their homes at the hands of bm who claim to love them, or even bm who are total strangers to them but expect things from them. I remember traveling through the state of NY last year.  I passed two beggars on the highway. One was wg in his early 20s and other was a bg in his 50s.  Anyway the wg had a sign about wking for food. I felt bad for him, he seemed so lost, so I decided to give him 5.00. I waved him over, and gave him the money, which he seemed very grateful for. The bg had a sign about him being homeless and plz GIVE him money, (no mention of him being willing to work) but because I had already given the wm money, I felt a little guilty not giving anything to him. So I waved him over too, intending to give him 5 as well. But as he drew near  my car, it became obvious that he was furious. He started screaming at me about  how dare I give money to the Man, When I could see HE needed help! He went on to tell me that, that's why M&@her  F$%kers are busting bw's skulls because we are soooo  damn stupid, and greedy! Keep in mind now that this was MY MONEY! But I was greedy not to share with him whatever he needed!  I sped off without giving him anything as he stood there continuing to scream.. For a total stranger to EXPECT you to owe him ANYTHING is sheer lunacy, and poison. Because bw are given this msg so often, many actually begin to believe it and really think they owe allegiance, or help to random bm who spit vitriol at them on a regular basis.
The sad truth is that many bw are exposed to small doses of poison daily, yet are expected to function at full par.

The following depiction is made up but mirrors the lives of many average bw. See if you can count how many doses of poison are fed to this young woman in one day 


Picture a young mom. she struggles to get her child off to a daycare she can barely afford, then jumps on a crowded bus to work. We will call her Darlene for illustration... Keep in mind before you discount this story as too far fetched to ever be true. Many bw absolutely live like this everyday.....Watch how at one point this disillusioned  young woman even blames herself!

The bus was hot and smelly as Darlene made her way to the back. Several young black  teenagers, mostly male hung off the seat like lions in an open cage. Her mouth went dry, but she forced a smile and continued to make her way between men who refused to move their knees to allow her to pass.  When she got to the back she saw that the only unoccupied seats were covered with bags and no one seemed to notice(or care) that she desperately wanted to sit down. Darlene grabbed a pole as the bus shifted loudly and swung back into gear. She was having a lot of trouble holding onto her bag, newspaper, and reports she had promised her boss, but she clung on ferociously. 'After all, I'm a bw!' she told herself. 'I can handle it' She was so engrossed in her inner dialogue she failed to notice the two young males sitting directly behind her. One of them had a empty seat next to the window, but he'd covered it in a large bag so that it was almost impossible to access. " Big ass-nappy headed  B%*ch!" He spat. His buddy almost choked with laughter.  His malicious eyes caught Darlene's hurt ones. His smiled sadistically. "Well they aint got the purty w a t e  skin, but they IS good f'sumptim"  He sneered as he grabbed his private parts. "You right Dayquan! the other laughed. "They is good f' dat!"  
Darlene hung her head in sadness and shame, although she couldn't put her finger on exactly what she was ashamed of.  She tugged at the neckline of her medical assist. uniform. 'maybe my blouse is too exposed she thought hurriedly. There was no cleavage showing but she tugged anyway. ' What have I done to make them automactically think me a slut! she wondered morosely. She looked down at her dark pants that had to be bought in a larger size last time she had gone shopping.'  I have actually gained some weight,' she thought regretfully. 'If only I had stuck to my diet!' She cursed herself for not losing the extra 15 lbs she had been carrying for months. A sharp pain interrupted her reverie. Another man had come up behind her and stuck a sharp pencil point into her backside. 
Darlene jumped, and turned on him angrily. 'Leave me the hell alone!'  She shrieked.  She had expected to see a child, but instead a grown man stood before her -dark and menacing.
 "jest wanned t'see if dat azz was real" He smiled coldly. He stared at her with pure hatred in his eyes so strong-she felt like running. Pple near began to giggle, but it was anything but funny to Darlene.  "Get away from me!" She shrieked again.

"What's goin on back there!" The bus driver barked. He was a middle aged wm with graying blond hair and deep green eyes. Right now his green eyes were riveted on Darlene-waiting for her answer
All three locked eyes on Darlene, but there was no fear between them. more like defiance-as if they were daring her to tell. A young girl sitting to her left turned and shook her head at Darlene. She knew what she meant. 'don't tell on a bm cause we bp gotta stick together and not give the wm any reason to lock our brothers up. ' she'd heard this so often, she could write it in her sleep. 'But how come the so called 'good bm' never help us?' she wondered.
Darlene signed miserably and shook her head at the driver. He reluctantly took the bus out of park and resumed the trip. Once they realized they had gotten away with it, the 3 men returned to their victim and began to turn the insults up, which in turn became more vicious. Darlene turned for help to the people sitting around her, but they all turned their heads, many of the females regarded her sadly, but dare not intervene, lest they become the new target. Some of the larger bm practically yawned in her face, that is the ones who weren't laughing. The hatred and tension were so high, Darlene felt physically ill. At the next stop I'm getting off even if I'm late to work!'  she vowed. But as the bus pulled into a stop a pretty white girl in blue shorts got on. Darlene tried to move to the exit but the 3 animals were surrounding her, laughing as the tears began to leek from her eyes. They shoved her so hard, she hit her back on the pole. 
Suddenly the atmosphere changed. The wg moved to the back and the men instantly forgot about Darlene. They broke their necks offering the girl a seat, smiling at her, and making a show of cleaning the seat off for her. Someone again pushed Darlene so hard all the items in her arms crashed to the floor.  She fell to her knees. 'She HAD to have this work on her boss's desk, clean and ready to go.
The wg flipped her hair and looked haughtily down at Darlene as she picked one of the seats offered to her. It was next to the guy who had stuck her in the butt with a sharpened pencil, and looked at her so evilly she almost died. But now he was on his best behavior smiling and being ultra attentive to the girl next to him.  
Dayquan turned in his seat and stared enviously at the girl. "I almost took that seat" He murmured wistfully  "Ha ha too bad n%gga!"  the pen poker laughed. All 3 young men seemed to have forgotten about Darlene, and she was sooooo glad. They formed almost a worshiping circle around the girl, and showered her with compliments. "She was soooo beautiful, She was a queen... She must be a model etc" The girl laughed and flung her blond hair like a young Farrah Faucette. 

The next stop was Darlene's and she wasted on time fleeing the bus.... As she arrived in to work, Mrs Brewsky, an older ww who loved to wield authority  glanced sharply at her appearance. She had bus dirt on her uniform (which must stay spotlessly clean) tear streaks ruining her perfect makeup, and a large dirty footprint on her pant leg courtesy of the jerks on the bus. But even though she could plainly see she had been crying, Mrs B's cold eyes raked over her. "Darlene this will not work!" She snapped. "You simply cannot greet our patients looking like!"  "But Mrs Bren-!"  "No buts!"  Mrs B cut her off.  "Go see if Nia has an extra uniform in the back closet, If you does not -you may catch a bus back home right now!" Darlene trudged off trying to fight the tears and humiliation that tore at her soul.  "What sa matter? " Terrance the janitor quipped. "Was you gitten too busy to wash n iron yo clothes?" He scowled at her, and smiled meanly, showing a mouthful of  multi-colored, chipped teeth. "Now see if you was to let me sleep ova, Ida made sho you was up n off on t-- a-y-- m-- e!"  Darlene had to swallow the bile that rose in her throat  Terrace was pushing 60, chased every woman in sight, and only washed on special occasions. She tried to dart around him, but one of his groping hands found her left breast and squeezed it so hard, Darlene screamed. Then she sunk to the floor, and cried like a baby. Terrance hissed for her to shut up roughly. Then he began to tell her all the horrible things he would do to her if she got him fired, but Darlene was beyond caring. She was so tired of the guilt, shame, and pain inflicted on her daily just because she was a black woman. Suddenly the scream she had been carrying for years came out in a torrent of tears. "Al ight B%&ch!, Terrance held up his arms as if fending off an invisible foe. "I sees you da type tryda git a good bm fired-but let me tel ya. Iffn I gits fired my sistas is going com down h-e-a-h-and kick a hole n ya stupid azz!"  Then her best friend Rosita was there. She tried to pull Darlene off the floor before management caught her. Rosy looked sympathetic, but Darlene knew she could never really understand what she went through almost daily. She was Hispanic, and Hispanic men did not hate and disrespect their women the way AA men did. She felt so tired and worn out, but she had no one to turn to. If she complained, she was weak, if she took it until she went insane, she'd be a crazy b who couldn't handle a lit bit a stress-if she quit her kids would starve!  Dear God, what do I do!  She wondered. Suddenly Dr Mills was there. He was a tall wm who resembled Charlton Heston in his younger days. He pulled Darlene easily to her feet, and leaned in close. "If you need someone to talk to, I've been told I have a great listening ear" He smiled. Darlene nodded, slowly. More than anything she needed to talk!....

CONGRATULATIONS MR PRESIDENT!!!

Well Mr President once again you have proven your ability to persevere regardless of the obstacles, unfair criticisms, and dirty tactics that have been  profusely used against you. Your spirit is undaunted because you know your cause is just. Even when they tried to blame you for policies put in play long before you acquired office, you have remained steadfast and resolved to bring about betterment, and never capitulated to despair. To say that we are proud of you is a gross understatement, but it is the best that we can do.....
May the lord guide your hand, and keep you,and your beautiful family safe Mr President, and may you someday be recognized for ALL of your amazing achievements/accolades..... 

What if she had been white!

check You Tube, type in bus driver gives upper cut to attacking female...

Not to beat a dead horse, but I had to address this news that has been making it's way around the "net". Halima did a great post on this, but I still wanted to add my two cents. I just wonder what would have been the ramifications, and reactions to this mans actions, had this woman been white.


By now, I'm sure you have all heard about the bus driver giving a vicious uppercut to the unruly woman on the bus. Apparently (according to her ) he thought she was riding without money to pay her fare, and took exception to this. They became embroiled in a verbal exchange that grew into a heated altercation with both sides being completely profane and inappropriate. After he insulted her looks, she is seen in the video to move toward him. It's unclear if she shoved him or slapped him but if it was a hit/slap etc. it was over in seconds and obviously did not hurt him. But was it did do was give him an excuse to let the animal out. What is extremely clear in this video is his innate, festering hatred for bw. He slams on the  bus breaks, barks out "uh oh!" and disembarks from his seat. Anyone who has spent any time in the bc, knows that 'uh oh'  literally means "Now I got to kick your *ss!" He said she was going to jail, and calling the police in my opinion would have been completely rational and prudent, as I found her behavior to be inappropriate, and possibly dangerous to her fellow passengers, but his behavior was downright savage. But as he approaches, and towers over her, it's quite apparent that he has no intention of calling the police. The ppl on the bus, (mostly blk) are laughing and enjoying the show. Even the man standing in front who appears to be a safety monitor of some sort, does not intervene, and laughs with everyone else, oblivious to the escalating situation.
As the driver approaches her, he's seems to project a hatred that seems to have a venomous mind of it's own, He gives her an uppercut fierce enough to break bones. He then picks her up, and bodily throws her off the bus, like a bag of trash.

The ppl who had previously been laughing at this exchange are suddenly alarmed, and one girl yells out, ".......That's a female!!" To which he responds that he does not care, and that if she wanted to act like a man, he would treat her like one. Of course many bm jumped in to cosign. Many even added that she had gotten off easy. And then went on to describe all the ways they would like to make her pay! Some even thought he would have been justified in killing her!!!  This is the type of mentality many young bw are up against these days! One bm blogger even went to far as to say bw acted like retarded children-and should be avoided by any man with sense. That the b@!*#  deserved it and more, and that he was going to take up a collection for the poor man who had been fired, and lost his retirement/pension. Now ask yourself WHO was asking to make donations to this man's retirement???
I'll tell you. Black Women! After a slew of insults he had to nerve to expect bw to donate money to a man who had boldly assaulted a  bw, and then proudly gave interviews about his vicious assault!
I've looked this topic up on YouTube, and it seems the consensus is that she deserved to be punched out like a man. His company apparently did not agree. He was initially suspended, but after the case was researched, he was fired and subsequently lost his retirement. I think it was well deserved. Although I was quite disturbed by her behavior, (the profanity, disrespecting her elders, etc) I don't think it ever justifies beating a woman down like an animal.

But my main question is; what if this woman had been white. I think if she had been first of all, all the ppl laughing on the bus, IMO. would have stopped it long before he ever had the 'thought' of hitting a ww! I think the monitor would have come to life and guided her to a seat. Then he would have slid back and whispered a warning to the driver about arguing with ww. I think when he called her ugly. the crowd would have been shocked, instead of amused (I'm convinced many bp think white skin possessed it's own form of beauty, and has only varying forms of attractiveness, but never ugly. I think if he had made a move to hit a ww several ppl would have dived in front of her, and many more would have tackled the driver to the ground. But as I stated I don't believe it would have been allowed to get this far because the minute he began to exchange insults with a ww, several bm would have jumped in on her behalf, and begun to argue with him. Someone would have paid the fare, if she did not have it, and he would have have been told to stop harassing her. And I don't think he would have merely lost his job. Had she been white, I honestly believe he would have gone to jail, AFTER the police showed him what they do to big blk men who pick on little ww. Once it hit YouTube, ppl would have been outraged! No one (or very few) would be screaming that she deserved it, he should have killed her, or anything like that. No one would call for him to get his job back, or call for donations for him (as several bm groups are currently doing for him now). He would have been ostracized, and even after serving his time, treated as a social pariah....What do you think?......

How the rich get richer- and how you can too!

Hello Ladies (and Gents)
I know I've been gone a few weeks. I suspect you all know why, but I'm ok and life must go on......

I think the one thing lower income ppl never seem to realize is that success always leaves clues. It's really rather amazing to me that every town has a library and yet ppl continue to walk around ignorant of how to improve their circumstances!! That's absolutely incredible! Did you know that in Africa young girls dodge bullets to get to school! So intent are they on getting an education that they are willing to risk death! How many blacks in America would be willing to do the same? They will give up FOOD down there to pay for the privilege of schooling! Remember Food is more precious than gold down there. Yet education is something we can get completely for free down here and yet we have kids (esp. males) dropping out like flies!

Did you know that immigrants who come here are 20x more likes to become millionaires than the ppl born and bred right here! Why? Because sometimes you just can't see the forest for the trees.
Many Americans are so inundated in opportunity that they simply can longer recognize it.
All I'm talking about is a little shift in perception. If you were to decide to take a notebook and jot down 10 money making opportunities around your town, do you know you would actually have to force yourself to STOP at 10! Opportunity is everywhere and yet you have so many ppl broke and afraid! Stop and think for a moment if you knew that you could create a money making business anywhere in the world would you be worried about your little job, or would you be free to live life any way, and anywhere you wanted? I AM going to give you ladies some wealth tips because I strongly believe that
' if your money ain't right ain't nothin right in your life' but I want you all to have a more solid foundation and know the main difference between the rich and poor. And it's amazingly easy to understand. Besides having a prosperity consciousness -later...... the main difference is.............

The rich buy Assets and the poor buy liabilities!!! 

I want you all to think about MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice. Back in the day they both became big, if not faddish- rap stars. The record company seemed to promote them in the same way. When VI first came out he was mega hot and dressed stylishly in a multitude of black outfits. We were swooning over him, he was soooo handsome! MC H. was such a great dancer and performer, it was pure excitement to watch him, but along the way, the record company seemed determined to move them both onto the path of extremely bad marketing, and clownism. They both began to wear the most garish outfits, with pants that resembled something from a circus, and they both began to lose their audience, and suffered career disintegration. However, the striking difference between them is what happened then. Mc H had purchased a 10 million dollar mansion that he was now having trouble paying for and keeping up. He signed up with Death Row, and tried to go hard core to enable him to continue to make the kind of money he had become accustomed to. VI on the other hand seeing his music career waning used much of his unspent money to purchase investment properties. As the money from the music career came to a halt (Mc H- hardcore attempt was a fail from day one) both rappers were depressed and disillusioned. However, one was depressed comfortably in a mansion, and one was depressed on a relative's couch! Make no mistake about it. VI had purchased a mansion too just as MC H had. but he had bought a MODEST one that was more than supported by the income property he owned, and income was NOT a concern. He has stated many times that he is very rich, and never needs to work again!  MC H on the other hand had spent millions on parties, friends, houses, cars etc. When the tide turned, he was virtually penniless, and destitute. He was forced to make low budget commercials to survive!  This is a great example of rich and poor mindsets. MC H was thinking like a poor man even when he was making millions! This is why he was buying everything in sight trying to impress ppl, and having no respect for the money he was making.
MONEY NEVER STAYS WHERE IT IS NOT RESPECTED! Said another way, a fool and his money......
Ladies, the rich use money to MAKE MONEY! it's really as simple as that. The poor on the other hand, use money to impress or to have fun. They never think about tomorrow, they are too busy living for the day. This is why their lives are feast and famine. They get money, celebrate and go blow it on things that lose value before they can get it off the lot. Did you know that a brand new car loses 20% of its value as you drive it off the lot!!! We never drive brand new cars. We always buy them 2-3 years old. It's ridiculous to waste money like that. If Hammer had taken the millions he blew buying a home far too large for his small family, he could have purchased a more modest mansion, and bought income property just like ice did. He could have never HAD to work again either. How you spend your money is very important because it will make or break your life........It's all about CHOICE.

Le me give you another exp. I have 2 friends. We'll call them Kim and Tina.  Years ago, they bought loved expensive sneakers. I mean the kind that cost 200.00+ a pair. Anyway they both used to spend most of their paychecks on these ridiculously priced sneakers no matter how I chided them. After a few years Kim met, and  began to date a nerdy-but wealthy white guy who expressed horror that she would pay 200+ for a pair of sneakers! He told her that only when the rich became super-rich did they spend outrageously on things, and even then it was only after they had so many assets coming into their portfolios, that they would not even feel the outgo. He suggested a simple solution. "If you really love the sneaker, why don't you buy the stock?" he suggested. And that's exactly what she did. Tina laughed like crazy at the time. She thought Kim was crazy to date a white nerd or buy stock instead of sneakers.  Today years later, Tina is no longer laughing. She works 55+ hours a week, and can't even afford to take a sick day off as the bills from all the things 'she just had to have' are eating her alive. Her husband, a handsome-but philandering bm left her with 3 kids, and a stack of bills. He's bullying her relentlessly for a divorce so he can marry some blond, and the bill collectors have cost her 2 jobs now, by continually calling her at work. She is stressed to the point of a nervous breakdown, and crying -it seems every time I see her-which is often. Kim on the other hand is happily married to the 'nerd' They own stock in many companies including the sneaker Company that financed her way through college. They live quite a lavish lifestyle. She owns an interior design company, which she loves, and they give away more to charity each year then the average American makes. And it all boiled down to the CHOICES these two women made....


Anyway ladies I wanted to give you a few tips that the millionaires and those of us who just live like them use.... Whenever I throw one in, I will call it LLM tip ( live like a millionaire tip)

If you are in dire straights and need a fast job, here are two great ways to get one.

1. Get a great Job!  Way # 1
Have a friend call one of the 'upper head- recruiter' in the field you are interested in. Have that friend mention your name and tell them that her company is trying to obtain your services because "you are the best in the field" She should act as if she wants desperately to hire you for her company, and to ask several times if they have heard of you, and how she may contact you. Now you may think this trick does not work, but I can assure you that it does. Ppl are very competitive, and the only thing  many of these recruiter types like more than getting the top ppl for their companies, is stealing top ppl and ideas from other companies. Many times after a few calls like this, the buzz will start-rumors about your performance will take a life of their own, and everyone in that field will be looking to hire you! In fact I know someone who has perpetrated this scam a few times-it really works!

2.  Get a great Job!  #2
  If you really want to be able to get your pick of the great jobs-then watch the crowd and go in the opposite direction. You should do that in life anyway, as most ppl live their whole lives in lack, so it's quite dangerous to follow them. Anyway, here is how to get a great job -2. Forget the want ads. Everyone and their mama is looking there, and fighting for those few positions with employers swamped and able to demand more and more skills while paying less and less wages. This does not bode well as all for the typical job seeker. Try this technique instead. Go have a look at the yellow pages instead. Go to the field of your choosing (provided you are qualified for it-or it Will backfire) and make a list of all the companies you might like to work for. Next get some outrageously colored LARGE postcards, and send the companies what amounts to a 'commercial' about you.

For example:    Graphic Artist Extraordinaire!
Could you use a talented, honest, hard working experienced, competent and sought after Graphic Artist? I have great references, and am available to start immediately. I can almost guarantee you a more profitable business! Call me at ------------- Or Write: 555 Main St, Anytown USA...........
This is a very effective technique because many times the ppl in the 'book' are too busy to go hunting for new help, but could definitely use some. Also it prevents you from being lost in a thousand resumes which all start to sound the same after a while. The key as with most things in life, is to stand out.I can almost guarantee you a job if you earnestly use this technique.

LLM tip 1.    How to make 150.000 + per yr as a consultant!

This is a great tip because it's so effective and easy to put into effect. Get an appt. with a company you are very interested in. (Don't bother with things or companies you are not interested in, you'll have to force yourself to 'work' and it won't be very effective. Now if you have trouble getting the right ppl on line, or are too far away -send letters. ( Use Letterhead that designates you as a consultant) Explain to them that you are ready and willing to give them great ideas about how to increase profits/make better products etc. Explain that they will only pay you on increased SALES! And that they owe you nothing if no increase takes place.  Also explain that when they no longer need your improved version, or cease to use your ideas, their pymts to you can legally cease-with no further obligation. If you send this letter to 50 companies I can almost guarantee you, some of them WILL be interested! And you can get paid for years on ideas that took you an hour or so to come up with! Always know that more gold has come from the minds of men than has EVER come from the ground!

Last LLM tip is my Fav.  How to be a Million -Dollar Real Estate Broker!

You all know how much I love Real Estate so of course this is the one I would choose if I could only pick one of these tips. It works like this:

In America there are over 1 million ppl with a real estate licence (which only cost about 500-600$) to get. However, only about half are active, and most of even the active ones are only used sporadically. IOWs most ppl in America pay for the licence and then leave it on a shelf-probably because they are too busy watching tv. Anyway, few ppl are using their licence and fewer still are dealing in high dollar properties. Most people are just not comfortable going too far out of their own income range in any area. As with anything else, to the hustler-goes the spoils....

The plan.  get your  RE licence from a reputable company. I went to Princeton school of RE, and I know it's still less than 800 to go there. You can look them up on the Internet, they have schools in many states and are considered creme de la creme. Once you obtain your lic. You will need to work as an agent for a few months depending on your state. This is a great time to get your feet wet, and make all the contacts you can. Remember also that in many other countries RE lic's take years instead of months -so consider yourself fortunate. You will find several brokers happy to have you as they don't have to pay you unless you produce. You can easily keep your regular job while showing properties in your spare time. Once your apprenticeship is over go get your broker's licence.
Begin immediately to present the illusion of wealth. Have gorgeous stationery and business cards printed. Splurge on a nice briefcase, and suit. Ladies make sure the hem of your skirt is NOT far above your knee! If you want your clothes to say sexy and sophisticated that's fine, but you don't want to look like an intelligent tramp....

Visit wealthy listed homes and give the owners your card. Let them know that you 'specialize' in wealthy homes and would like to obtain the listing when their current one expires. (Most are for 90 days) but expensive properties can take much longer to sell. Tell them you have excellent contacts and would be delighted to help them move their properties.. The going rate is still 6 percent, but even if you have one of your agents sell the property, you will still clear 30k on a million dollar home without even selling it! If you sell yourself because you are broker and selling agent you would clear 60K! Imagine doing just 4 per year! You have just made 250.000 for the year!! This is great money, and you would still get 3 percent of everything all of your agents sell!

So like I said there are too many ways to make money to count, and no one should be struggling and unhappy, but if you are, then just ask yourself what you are interested in and go for it. You have nothing to lose, and I've found that if you keep asking for something, AND putting in the work, sooner or later it Will begin to make it's way to you almost like it has a mind of it's own...-Good luck everyone...........

Saying good bye to a big beautiful angel.....

Not traditionally handsome, but def. a beautiful man, Michael Clark Dunkin accepts his awards happily. Known as the gentle giant. He was immensely talented, and a wonderful man..

I know I have not often expressed love for bm, but this is definitely an exception. This was my favorite actor of all time, even above Clint Eastwood, Viggo, and Denzel. I fell in love with this man 12 + yrs ago when I first saw him talking about how happy he was to have gotten the role on green mile. He talked about how he was crying with happiness, and when he called his family -they cried with happiness. I could feel myself falling for him before I even went to see the movie. Of course everyone knows he gave a blockbuster performance and was nominated for several awards. Two of which he won. He was a phenomenal actor, and an absolutely amazing man. My entire family has followed his career religiously, and we are completely heartbroken about his recent death. I don't think a finer man exists on this planet. He was loving, kind, compassionate, humble, generous, too talented for words and simply a beautiful human being inside and out. I also loved the way he looked with that megawatt smile and large, beautiful frame. Words cannot express how much I'm going to miss him, or how much I loved him, or how many tears I've shed since the news... My prayers are definitely with Omarosa (his fiance) and his family. I can't imagine the pain they must be in. I honestly think Michael was the finest actor of our generation, and a testament to what a beautiful man truly looks like outside and in......

He initially had a heart attack last July, but was sustained at the time by his gf. He languished in the hospital for nearly 2 months but the damage to his organs was too great, and he passed away on Labor day 9-3-12. He had planned to marry Omarosa the love of his life in early January. He was only 54 at the time of his passing, and speculation is that his large frame put undue strain on his heart. (Not sure if this is true or not)  His gf is heartbroken and is asking for privacy. They were extremely close, and he often introduced her as the "most beautiful woman in the world"....... 

Learn to change the rules to better your life!

Spreading from the famous to the everyday: Black women beginning to change the rule books. 
 Top, Boris Becker and new wife Lily    Below: Ordinary couple enjoying lunch.....

I want y'all to think about something. A few years ago, when American Idol was new-do you remember the show? Think about the season number 2. Rubin was fantastic-Gladys nicknamed him the velvet teddy bear and he went on to win. We were all screaming with happiness, and it was soooo exciting. I thought he was adorable, and we went crazy when he won. Anyway, the next season came along Jennifer Hudson, Latoya, and Fantasia. I remember that season because Fantasia sang "give em something to talk about, and Latoya sang "All by myself" And I remember how blown away we all were at the shear talent, and incredible voices. I actually always thought although they all had beautiful voices, Latoya's was technically the most beautiful, Jennifer's was the strongest, and Fantasia's was the most unique. I just remember what incredible performances those were, and wondered who would win. At first we thought it would be between Latoya and Fantasia, but after JH belted out week end in New England. by Elton John. we were floored. Those were some of the most incredible performances I've ever seen even as of today. But the point of all this is: remember when after a fantastic night all 3were in the bottom, and everyone was stunned? I honestly feel that at that moment white America almost felt they were TOO GOOD, and really was not ready for all 3 to be the   final contenders. That was the night Simon admitted he'd made a mistake and told JH there were 2 girls in the back with a doll of her, sticking pins in it. He also said he'd make a mistake and she had proven why she deserved to be in the top 12.

Anyway, that night JH was eliminated, and we were furious. But as you can see, she did not stay down. She went on to become a big star anyway. But the point of all this is not to recap AI. We don't even watch it anymore. And the reason we don't is because after Fantasia went on to win, (right behind Rubin-thus making 2 blk winners in a row) AI changed the rules from then on. From that point on they stopped having America pick the idol, and started having the judges pick them! Now you may claim America still picks the idols but that is not true. AI now has the judges pick the TOP 12!  Then, and only then can America pick the idol FROM THIS CONTRIVED GROUP! See it used to be they would pick 36 people and put them in 4 separate groups. They groups would then have to compete and America would pick the top 3.  Two of the 3 would go on to make up the top 12. It was a much more exciting show then, because anyone could actually win. Now to me it feels like a set up with the winner already decided beforehand. We soon lost interest, and stopped watching....

But the point is: My belief is that Fox Network (whom I truly believe is quite racist) did not like the fact that 2 blk singers won in a row; hence, they simply changed the rules. They did not worry about infringing on the American Public's right to a fair and impartial competition, probably because they viewed it as their show, and felt they had the right to alter things at will. They simply changed the rules to better suit their agenda! BW MUST LEARN TO DO THE SAME THING!  If something is not working in your life-learn to change the rules to SUIT YOU! If you want to go to school, or lose weight, or better yourself in some way, and someone is trying to sabotage you- block them from your life. If someone always puts you down-refuse to be in their presence.  And if someone tries to block your relationship with a good man because of color or anything else, rebuff that nonsense and keep stepping out to a better life!  If you are a woman who has previously been NBABM sect, simply decide to exercise your options. It's all about choice. You are NEVER stuck in any place or time-unless you decide to be.  This is an example of how incredible women can be when they decide to. I know someone who had a baby at 14! She refuse to have an abortion as her family ordered her to. She went into an unwed home for young women -had her baby and continued through school. She excelled in school and obtained a  full scholarship that enabled her to take her child with her. All this time she received not a dime of financial or emotional support from the bm father (no surprise).  She graduated from college with honors and became a very high ranking attorney with only the love and support of her mother, and is today completely self sufficient, and quite affluent.  This is the power of a woman who has DECIDED to do something! More and more bw today are waking up from a dead-slumber and branching out. Looks like the memo is picking up speed as bwwm marriages are the fastest growing of all IR relationships! Who would have ever thought that would happen. And although I like to think we bloggers had alot to do with it (Esp. Evia as she started the whole thing). But I think what has given momentum to this movement, is the two-fold blessing of  you tube videos with all the lovely bw letting other bw see how their lives had improved with good-non color struck men. As well as bm putting their feet in their mouths and saying such horrible vile things about bw, that many bw were finally forced to wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak. They say the Lord works in mysterious ways....

 Anyway, the trick is to DECIDE to change the rules you have used to govern your life. Decide to do what is in your best interest and not to be a slave to old worn out ideas and beliefs. Anyone can conquer old demons if they bring them out into the light and acknowledge that they've been a hindrance an impediment to their success. It's unbelievable to me when I still hear bw spout like puppets "What about the black race! It will be bred out of existence!" or " We need to be loyal to bm!" Let me tell you something only a fool is loyal is someone who does not give a damn about them! Only a fool...
You need to be loyal to YOURSELF! You need to find men who will give you the love, support, and companionship that makes life worth living. You need to have a father for your child who will stick around and love that child regardless of whether the relationship lasts or not! And it's common knowledge who abandons their children with a vengeance in America...
For your sake, for your children's sake, learn to change your rules, and your life change will follow....

3 keys to a bright new future for black women...

1st key to life overhaul is an image overhaul....

Image precedes everything. Many bw get on Nat. Tv and act like total fools and then wonder our collective reputation is in the toilet! If you watch Maury, The Jeremy Kyle show, And worst of the worst, Jerry Springer you can see what I'm talking about. I certainly don't watch them, but just passing by them on the way to something else makes me cringe in horror. When JK first came out he at least made a pretense of putting all different types of people on his show and letting them act a fool. But far more recently, he simply gets exclusively black ppl to come on and show their behinds to the whole world. I'm always flabbergasted by how ill informed these ppl could be to go on these shows act a fool and be totally oblivious to the harm they were doing to others who share their race/gender.

Has anyone other than me noticed that Maury NEVER has a Chinese person on his show acting like ghetto/trailer trash? I read somewhere years ago that his Asian wife Connie, told him she had better never see an Asian on his show acting this way, and embarrassing the whole race! So he like many others before him, pull most of his 'fools' from the blk race. After all who is more ready and willing to make a damn fool of themselves faster than us! Its so frustrating to see bw making fools of themselves on Nat. TV! Fighting over sorry men, screaming, cursing, behaving like untamed banshees  and letting it all hang out! We all know that the media has an agenda for making us look like fools, but my question is why would you ever feed into it? It would be so much better for us not to be on tv at all, then to be on looking and acting like idiots.  Bill Cosby, someone I've always liked and respected, calls it the Massacre of images. And he pleads with bp to stop, and yet it continues....
It's gotten so bad lately, that most of the tv is blocked from the kids. We don't want our children seeing all this crap. And let me say something else to all the really big bw, and this is going to anger some ppl, but If you know that you are really overweight. I don't mean by 30-50lbs like most American women. I mean if you weigh 400-500-600lbs FOR GOD'S SAKE STAY OFF OF NATIONAL TV!!! The truth is they are deliberately seeking you out-so they can laugh at you!  Don't allow yourself to be the butt of the media's vicious, and derisive humor. Did you think it was a coincidence that so many very large, older, and routinely UNATTRACTIVE bw are featured on tv so much, while the far more appealing are herded into the background? I remember one commercial for some ED medicine that took place in an office. All the ww were young and attractive the only bw there had to be 58+, overweight, gray haired, and looked like someones over worked maid. This is very typical. There is a very real agenda going on here. Especially as more and more wm have begun to make their attraction to bw known. Now I acknowledge that we cannot control other women's behaviors, but we can certainly control our own. Be a lady in all things, Speak like one, act like one, be one. Always try to fight with your intellect rather than your fists. Many times in college someone tried to subdue me but because I am a voracious reader, and knew what I was talking about, they were wholly unsuccessful .....

2nd Key to life overhaul is to see things as they are rather than how you wish they were!

 Judge Milion (sp?) has a saying there is none so blind as he who WILL NOT SEE. Many blk ppl-and I'm going to go ahead and switch to bw from here out because it is not my concern what bm do. Many bw go on Maury and complain that the sorry trifling negro they love is coming home late, has hickeys, smells like other women etc, and then they want Maury to prove he is not cheating on them!  SMH! They already KNOW he is cheating, they simply refuse to believe their own eyes. First of all, I feel like bw have been warned enough. IF you are looking for a husband in the hood, you'll probably get exactly what you are looking for. A ne-er-to-do-well drug dealing thug, who will treat you like crap and screw around on you every chance he gets. MOST of the men in these black enclaves are very damaged, and many are quite dangerous in numerous ways, ie, violence, brutality, socially and sexually. I don't care if you presently live in the hood and are trying to escape. Forget about taking a man from there with you. 90+% of the time you will be wasting valuable time and energy on him.
I've said a hundred times a man will show you who he is all you have to do is sit back and watch.  Now I'm not suggesting that most wm are compatible with most bw. But I'm clearly  stating that most bm no longer ARE!  It's long time to forget about blk love and focus on loving ourselves enough to move on....
NO one makes improvements, or moves forward in their lives if they wont own up to the truth no matter how painful. The simple truth is most bm do NOT have your back. They are NOT your brothers, and many of them simply hate you for various reasons ie, doing better than them, reminding them they are black, looking like them when they cannot accept their own looks etc.. Seeing things ar they are also means that if there is something you need to do to feel better about yourself, do it. If you need to get your diploma, or finish college or lose weight-whatever it is do it. Only you can change your life. NO one else can. You know exactly what you need to work on. But the point is to acknowledge what is or is not working in your life, so that you can fix it.....

The Third and last key for today is get your finances in order!

Nothing seems to impact our lives so much as money. I know there is a saying that money does not bring happiness, but if you buy into that-try poverty! I can tell you because I have lived on both sides.  After I left husband #1 I had no money and a child to take care of, and those were the two hardest yrs of my life! I was constantly worried, struggling and stressed. I made up my mind to never be broke again because broke is the hardest position for any American to be in. The reason is because everything centers around money in America! Now I have a great life, house, assets, and wake up worry, and nearly stress free. I enjoy it immensely. What made the difference between then and now-MONEY! You have got to have it in this great land of the free, where nothing is really free-except air. For those of you struggling in this new recession or scared out of your wits about how to take care of your children. I want to help you out. Many ppl I know have lost jobs recently but I want to give you some information on how to live well with or without one.....

Make money without a job...


1. Think outside the box. Find a need and fill it. You don't have to have a job to live well, and you can actually have more freedom than ppl who have a job can dream of. For instance. I had a friend who was crying on my shoulder a few months ago about how she lost her accounting job. I asked her if she would like me to help her start a home biz. She eagerly agreed, saying she would do ANYTHING to feed her kids. So we went to the dollar store, where I bought a broom, mop, pail, and several cleansers. We then went back to my house where I went into my office and printed off several hundred cards for her on my computer (at my expense -mind you). I guess I missed the stunned expression on her face I was so busy making and printing material. I created a mission statement for her (your objective for your biz) marketing materials, the cards and some discount coupons to get business started. She let me work for hours while saying nothing, just watching. At around 7, when her sister came to pick her up, she decided it was a good time to let me know how annoyed she was with the whole idea. She demanded to know why I thought she would want to be a maid. "Because I thought you wanted fast money" I retorted back, "And you have not said anything to the contrary in the past 5-6 hrs!" I told her I had planned to hire her to steam clean all my carpets a job I really hate, but needed to have done. " And I was going to pay you 300.00" I told her. She sneered, "Well you have 3 floors + a basmt that's not enough"  "I don't need the basmt done, so I think 300 is fair" I said She was completely ungrateful and tried to get me to pay 450.00, I refused. Just then her sister came in, heard the argument and jumped at the chance to make 300. She also squealed with delight at the maid idea because she too was recently laid off. Not only did she do a great job on my floors but she crossed out her sister's name on the cards and actually did the maid business. She's been at it less than 3 months and is already booked solid, and earning a good income of 700-1000 per wk! As for my friend kim, she is still subsisting on unemployment, and struggling. And as her house gets closer to foreclosure she grows more bitter, angry and resentful. Can you believe now she's actually saying her sister 'stole' her business! smh.....

The truth is there are ALWAYS needs in your community that must be filled. You walk past them everyday. Now maybe I was being selfish, because I really did want my carpets done, so maybe that's why I tried to steer kim toward house cleaning, but if she was really as motivated as she claimed, she would have done it, or something else.  Her sister has called and thanked me many times. She was able to keep her home and feed her children, and now kim is not speaking to her because she will not lend her 1000 dollars... That's another story but basically kim is a person (although a good person) who wants the reward without paying the price. Life does not work that way. First you must PAY the price, and then take the reward....
Now here are some other tips for the displaced and /struggling. Some of the best ways to make $ are right under our noses, but we don't see them because we are too busy looking for a job...

2. This is a great tip for those who love cars..   Make 10K per month after you get this going working only 10-15 hours per wk.  To start: find a lot around your town that is vacant and unused.  Arrange an option on it. An option is a real estate tactic of putting a small amt of money on something  in case you need it. What you are doing is tying the land up for later use. If you do this right, you will definitely need the option.  place ads or fliers around town offering to help people sell their cars. Many people will take you up on an offer, especially as word gets around. Now in a business like this everyone will soon know you are making good money, so please be careful and don't disclose your address!  Have all the cars park on the lot through the week end. Call the paper and see if they will cover the event as a grand opening. They often will because they don't have enough news  Also call the papers in the nearby towns. Get a few food vendors, and someone to sell cold drinks and you will have ppl happy to stay for hours. All transactions should be between buyers and sellers you simply provide the place, and time.  Charge all cars 25.00 up front and 100 cars per wk end will gross you 10.000.00 per month! This is not including a cut of the vendors profits... You may want to pay 2 big guys to keep the peace  but you should still make great money and only work week ends....


3. I gave someone this idea a while ago, and she's actually still doing it and making great money. I even named it for her. Honey bunny sitting service. All you do is line up sweet little grandma type women and offer them part time work as baby sitters. People love for their children to be taken care of by grandma. which this concept is built on. Now make sure you screen the grandmas and make sure they really like kids (not all grandmas do) Run a back ground check, criminal check, and get them bonded. If you have a van or spacious car this works even better. Take the grandmas to the houses where they will babysit for working parents. The best part of this is that the child gets to stay home where he/she is most comfortable. Charge parents a little more, after all the caregiver is brought to them- or use ppl who have their own cars, but still charge a percentage of the fees. The money is paid to you directly, and you pay the caregiver. Just like an employment agency. You can build it big or keep it small, it's up to you. But if you charge 200 per wk (very reasonable) and pay the worker 150 for part time wk. With 20 workers, you should net about 1000.00 per wk and this is part time. We pay a sitter 350 per wk to watch our baby and she is worth every cent. I never have to worry about him being abused or hurt, and I know she loves him, so it's well worth the money....Any working parent will tell you that a good sitter is worth their weight in gold....



Secret jobs, that pay well,  that the public never notices.

So there are 3 good non job ideas but if you really want a job and can't seem to find one, I have a super great tip for you. Many people do not realize how much money door to door sales people make. They hear the word commission and they can't get away fast enough. I have sold door to door many times, and I can tell you its a GREAT WAY TO EARN LOTS OF MONEY!  It's a hidden secret that many ppl don't want you to know. But I have a cousin selling cable door to door now, and she clears 2-3000 per week! She says when she tells people what she does many women laugh and say things like  "Well ya wudn;t catch me sellin at no do for minumin wayyyyge!" She says she never tells them what she makes because she loves having so much turf to herself. She just sells and goes on about her business. There are many things you can sell door to door, and these jobs are much easier to get because they are based on performance and cost the company very little to hire and train you. And believe me you don't have to be a star salesperson. My cousin is NOT her income is AVERAGE! Most of the star salesmen are the guys and some of them make 50-70% more than her!  I would advise any of you interested to find a sales job, buy a 10.00 book off ebay and learn to sell. You can feed your family in ANY economy if you simply learn to sell. This is a skill that even Donald Trump was telling his people to learn. You can always come out on top if you know how to sell. Some of the best books I recommend are  1. Hypnotic selling,  by Dr Moine  2. Selling with NLP, by Kerry Johnson and 3. Sell your way to the top by Zig Ziggler..

So my baby is whining for my attention, so I will wrap it up. but do write me and let me know how these ideas have worked for you. If you use them I guarantee the money WILL COME....
Good luck -Sara

Who are they trying to fool-Bw or Wm?

I was perusing an interracial site the other day when the author (an otherwise very intelligent bw) said something that stopped me in my tracks. She was talking about why more bw are now dating and marrying wm. She herself married a wm two years ago, and bragged about how wonderful her husband was to her. But the part that shocked and dismayed me was when this college educated, scholastically accredited woman stated very matter of factly; " she had really wanted a bm but none were interested due to her dark skin, so she had 'settled' for her husband, but was now glad things had worked out as they had!" As if this remark was not ignorant enough, she also added that "it was INHERENT IN A BW'S MAKEUP TO WANT A BM! I was so livid I had to go calm down. DH thought it was hilarious because he knows I wanted a bm like I wanted a hole in my head, and he knows many bw 'secretly' feel the same way, but I thought this was no laughing matter.

This woman, and many like her are CLOSING THE DOORS ON THE HAPPINESS OF OTHER BW WITH ASININE REMARKS SUCH AS THIS. I had to put that in caps because I think it's such an important statement. Lets be clear about something. I truly, truly believe that some bw even those who claim to have the best interests of other bw at heart, are behaving in ways that are designed to keep many bw lonely, unloved, and chasing an undeserving bm. Why they do this is a question for another forum, but many definitely do this. Now, I'm sure you ladies know that this is 100% hogwash, but unfortunately many wm/non bm don't know this! And that is what makes statements like these so pernicious. Think about this, if you were a nice wg interested in bw, what kind of impression would such a stmt make on you? Would you be more inclined or less after reading this drivel, to approach a an appealing bw?

I wa actually talking to a wm business associate of mine the other day. He told me that what's going on now is they are using propaganda on wm. He said the effect on bw seems to be fading as more and more bw (esp in the last few years) have become more honest about their attraction to wm-and correspondingly the numbers of bw/wm marriages have exploded, making them the fastest growing IR segment. As a result, (This is his theory) Many bw who want their IR marriage to remain special,( ie exclusive) are trying to cut off the road to wm for other bw. And of course we all know why bm don't want bw to get away. They would actually have to take care of themselves, and their ready-made harems would dissipate. I'm not really sure why this woman and others like her would say such things. Perhaps she really is this blissfully unaware of the problems she is causing for other women who are very much attracted to wm, and perhaps have NEVER been attracted to bm. We really do exist on all realms. Or perhaps she has heard this lie repeated so many times, that like many lies, she is now unable to distinguish it from the truth.

How do I know it's a lie. I will give a very simple scenario to demonstrate this fact.
 Now imagine if there were some attractant in melanin rich females that had the propensity to only find melanin enhanced males of similar ethnic backgrounds attractive, acceptable and appealing then it would have to ALSO WORK IN REVERSE ON THE MALES!!!  And we all know that is NOT the case. If anything, many bm have demonstrated time and again and are now even so damaged as to scream to the whole world how UNATTRACTIVE they find melanin rich females. And the more melanin she has in her skin (ie the darker) the less appealing many of them find her. This is how I know there is NOTHING black attracting about melanin! Therefore these women who claim it's innately in bw to only want a bm are responding to  social conditioning -and not any viable, or tangible attractant. In other words, attraction IS biological, color selectant attraction is NOT. If a bw is only attracted to bm, it is because she has decided through internal or external stimuli-conditioning that this is the type of man she is attracted to. But it has NOTHING to do with her biological makeup. It is merely and ingrained belief that has become a conviction. This is why she will act on it even to her own detriment. Don't you think that many of the bw you see now happily marrying out, once thought they could only be happy with bm?  I can assure you that many did because this is something that has been taught to bw since babyhood. But the corresponding message is NEVER taught to blk baby boys.They are taught that they are special. Females and the world owe them something, and they are entitled to sit back and collect it. They owe no particular allegiance to ANY woman, and are therefore free to pursue anyone they choose. The first part of this msg has been particularly devastating to many bm as they sit back and wait to be taken care of, they are falling further and further behind other men who are making things happen, while they languish in babyhood well into their 30s 40s and even 50s waiting for their 40 acres and a mule!

The second part of this msg to them I wholeheartedly agree with. They are free to be with, love and marry whomever they want, and they should. But it should cut both ways. bw should be raised with this msg as well. The bc needs to stop prevaricating to bw and telling her that she is NOT attracted to non-bm. And bw need to stop allowing ppl to get into their heads and lead them. And my wm associate was right about them going after wm now with this msg because more and more bw have stopped listening. They are panicking as more and more bw escape, so they are going for tactic number 2. Stop the relationship BEFORE it has a chance to flourish by telling wm that bw don't want them. This is why you have CR screaming this nonsense even in the face of rising bw/wm marriages. They are hoping to quell the tide before it gets going by stomping it out. I know why they are doing this, the only part that mystifies me is why bw, esp those who purport to be in happy IR marriages would participate in this modern day delusion. If you got out of a hellhole safely and found happiness, then why in God's name would you want someone else to stay in it! And lets not sugarcoat it. For many bw, relationships with bm are nothing but hellholes! Unless you call being a baby-mama (almst never a wife) -semen dump-all-bill paying-drudge, happiness. I just don't get it. Most bm are offering bw little to nothing in the way of a better life, and anyone who overtly or covertly encourages bw to stay in that mess should examine the face in the mirror and ask herself why..... 

What does living well have to do with dating/mating white?

Angie and new hubby bottom: Ajani and her new hubby.... One of the most important aspects of living well is finding a good man....






Evia often speaks of living well on her much read blog. And I know alot of ppl often wonder what does she mean when she speaks of living well. The reason I decided to address it is because I came across a site the other day attacking her for alledging  that living well had anything to do with dating/marrying white. The fact is that there is a direct correllation between HIGHER QUALITY men and living well. And the fact is that there are ALOT of quality wm all over. They seem to be ubiquitous,  whereas  quality bm are very short supply and growing fewer in number almost daily. This is the primary reason I think many of us bloggers advocate dating and marrying 'out'.  The painful truth is that alot of bw have lived in dysfunction so long they can no longer recognize it for what it is. So many women have men coming over for booty calls who are unavailable for 'real dates,' or have men who come to get their clothes cleaned, their sexual appetites filled, or come to 'take' in many other ways. So many bw today live lives of quiet desperation- poor things! When she speaks of living well I know many of you are scratching your heads and wondering what that really means. I can tell you my take on it, and I'm sure she'll correct me if I'm wrong. But I think she simply means to live a happy, fulfilled, and prosperous life that meets with your idea of "great" Whether you want to marry an artist or a king to simply know what you want and not let anyone deter your happiness and prosperity.

I think we all know either overtly or covertly that many bw are in dire straights. Many bw wake up each day and wonder why they bother. Some  I know personally ) wake up crying and go to sleep crying. It breaks my heart- because it should not be that way. Your life is a most precious gift, and  if you are unable to enjoy it, there is an egregious injustice taking place. What really ticks me off though is that the world seems to take morbid pleasure in the bw's agony. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has noticed all the lies that are constantly spread about us. From the ridiculous phantom 'study' which suggested we were the least datable (along with Asian men)- to the blatant lie the CDC told, claiming 50% of bw had herpes! The reason they felt secure enough to tell these lies is because they knew bw had no men behind them who would come forward and "fight" for them. Think about it, when Travon Martin was brutally shot by G. Zimmerman. we felt for his family right along with millions of other ppl. And many bw stampeded out there and fought and cried along with his family for justice. In fact every week there seems to be a new 'male black face' that bp are out there fighting for. And bw are full force out in front every single time. But when was the last time a black female had ANYONE fighting for her???

I could name (female) victim after victim of violent crimes who received virtually no press coverage, and were mourned only silently by their families. Why is this? Why the silent treatment when the vic is a woman instead of a man? Because they have an agenda. They always have, except many bw never realized it before. There agenda is to push the bm up by standing on the bent and broken bodies of bw, and anyone else who gets in the way. They are very stealthy about it, so bw won't know until they are no longer needed. Kind of like a fake friend does when she smiles in your face, and tries to steal your husband behind your back. She was planning it all along and the smile was to disengage your defenses. However, I think it should be patently obvious what bm are up to now-look at their actions. Anyone who can't see by now is either in denial or quite obtuse. Men are just not able to keep their true intentions hidden for long, because their actions give them away. Remember that. Don't bother listening to what a man says-watch what he does, it will give you the real clues.

But back to what I was saying, the reason the world will lie and try to stomp on bw is because they know that we are the most UNPROTECTED women in the world!. Wm (even those not married to ww) will shut anyone down quick who tries to attack the sanctity of the ww's image. They know their mothers, sisters, cousins, Aunts etc. are ww. They know they CAME from these women so they are not about to allow these women to be thrown under the bus. This is what a REAL man does. He protects the women and children in his community. He fights if nec. and even dies if nec. But he PROTECTS his community. Now compare this to the bc. Where you have women sometimes working 2 jobs to take care of lackadaisical, go nowhere men. Think about the fact that 70% of the wealth in the bc is with the women! two thirds of the ppl going to college and raising children alone are the women! And many of these wonderful women are suffering horribly in numerous ways.

So to answer the question what does mating/dating/marrying white have to do with living well? Simply that when you know better you do better. It's really as simple as that. Let me be clear before I am misquoted once again. Wm are NOT saviours. But many of them are good men. It is very easy to find good wm-they're everywhere. This is why it is so easy to live well with a loving good wm. They are easy to find and AVAILABLE! Many bm are not only extremely damaged, but are emotionally, financially, and mentally unavailable. And you don't need a Brad Pitt look alike either. You just need I good man. The reason I advocate for bw to step outside the box to look for a man is because I know that your chances of finding a good man go up exponentially by looking outside the bc for a man. The truth is most wm are raised to take care of their families, get MARRIED, be a FATHER to their children, and stay in their lives regardless of what happens in the marriage. They are also taught to make their communities a better and safer place for posterity. Ladies, lets be blunt. It's very hard to live well when you have to carry the full load of bills and babies. It's very hard to live well when there is nobody to listen to YOUR pain or rub YOUR back after a long day. It's simply very hard to live well when you are carrying everyone. Now we HAVE to carry our children ,  but a man should carry himself, and lift most of the burden off his family. You should not work like a dog all day and come home to a man whining for you to take him out to eat! Don't laugh I know about 3 women who absolutely live like this every single day. One is so miserable every time I see her, it seems she's crying. She has 5 children by a verys dbr man and although she works almost 60 hrs per week, and makes a great salary, she is always broke, because she pays for almost everything. Her husband lays around all day and constantly nags her to buy 'him' things, and the  children have learned to follow his lead. They constantly use her to fill their needs all the while complaining that she does not do enough for them! Her husband even whines like a child if she buys herself a new dress! Carrying on about how come she does not buy more stuff for him! (smh) Her life revolves around working ungodly hours, running home to clean up, and taking the kids everywhere they need to go. She either has to choice of  picking up meals for him every night, or cooking a whole dinner after working 12 hrs straight!  She told me that her unemployed husband wants sex every night and does not care that she is exhausted. He also insist she get up at 6am to make breakfast for him before going to work! It goes on and on, If I told you half the things this poor woman goes through you would think I was making it up, but many women in the 'hood' live lives very similar or even worse than hers. So when you hear the term "living Well" know that it means getting the best education you can, the best man you can, and the best life you can.

What wm have to do with living well is that many wm will help you live well. Plain and simple. On the other hand, many bm will live well OFF of you! And this distinction can make or break your life! The culture of coddling and 'make up gifts' bestowed upon many bm in the bc has a paralyzing effect on manhood training. Many bw seem to feel guilt about the racism many bm endure (as if we don't) and make concerted efforts to minimize his pain. This always backfires later in life because the attitude of entitlement burgeons into an overwhelming demand. He often goes from 'wanting ' something to thinking that it is 'owed' to him. He learns to hide under the cloak of racism and unfair treatment whenever things don't go his way. He also learns manipulation 101 from the males in his immediate environment., and trust and believe they have a PHD in this subject. Thus he is able to shirk responsibility, become lazy, indolent and indifferent to making a better world. The females around him will often galvanize and fight anyone who threatens his way of life. Including Police, teachers, or any other form of authority. Thie best part is that it seems to be inconsequential how badly he treats the bw in his environment. Without fail, they always seem t0 come to his rescue. Thus he learns that bw are doormats that one steps on as he makes his way up in life....Im sure you all can see what I'm alluding to here, some of the trifleness that bm display IS our fault. Too many of us have let them get away with so much that they now have zero chance of being productive, useful, contributing members of society. This is all the more reason we need a fresh batch of men who have not have not come from the same paradigm.We basically need to start fresh and move on. All you ladies out there kissing bm's boo boos and picking him up when he falls, and fighting his battles. etc. STOP! He must learn to take the bumps and bruises just like other men. Remember the color purple line where Celia tells Mr:
"Look like if he hadn'a been yo boy he cud'a made somebody a decent husband!"   Yes some of it may be our fault when they are younger, but as a man grows into a man he knows that he has certain responsibilities and has no business hiding behind a woman's skirt. Not even his mother's., for this is boy behavior -not man behavior. So for all you ladies destined to "LIVE WELL, I suggest you look for Men, and leave the little boys behind...

Forced new blog, and some tips for finding MR White.....

Andre and Nass recently engaged, and Andrew and fiance below:

Hey everyone. I'm so sorry to have to do this, but had to change to a new blog. My blog was hi jacked and I could not get the situation straightened out. I could not even get the name back, and I love the old name! This is the last time I will deal with blogger. If something happens with this one, I will be looking for a new blog home...It's been tremendously stressful because I spent hours on a new post I was unable even publish, or add comments or anything. It's been a real pain, and I can't even get content from the old blog, but I believe in focusing on the positive so lets move on....

Lets talk about some ways to meet a nice white guy....
Ever notice how some women tend to attract the same type of man over and over again? It's because she is putting out a certain type of energy. If you want to attract a great guy, you must have good energy. The reason many ppl think bw are angry is because many live in the hood, and that mean face is a survival mechanism. But what many women don't realize is that your body says as much to your mind as your mind does to your body. What do I mean by that? Just that Emotion is created by motion. In other words if you walk like a queen (your version of one) and you talk like a queen, and present yourself as one, other ppl with begin to see you this way. One of the most detrimental problems of women in the hood is that they often must seem as aggressive as men in order to protect themselves and their children. In turn, they are immediately labeled as angry, sullen, masculine, and other undesirable traits. The greater problem is that they begin to think of themselves this way! This is due to their body talk. And make no mistake about it, your body absolutely talks to your mind. If you were to force yourself to get out of bed and run morning after morning, no matter much you hated it in the beginning, soon your body would convince your mind that this is the type of person you are and you would no longer have to force yourself. This change would usually take place after 30 consistent days and be quite reinforced after 45 days.
So what does this have to do with finding a nice white guy? Simply that many bw are running around secretly 'wanting' a white guy while going to all black enclaves. Such as dances, sporting events, even restaurants where the majority of the patrons are black. Why? If you really desire to step outside the bounds of race, why are you confining yourself to "so called "-Black places, black dress style, black music etc. Step outside the box and experience ALL life has to offer. Many bw seem so tough to the outside world, but I have a tidbit of wisdom for you. If bw were as tough and rock solid as many pretend to be then why are they so fearful of what other ppl think and say? Many bw wont even wear their own hair! (when they really want to) because they are terrified that ppl will speak ill of them. Many would love to listen to other kinds of music and Many, Many would LOVE to date other kinds of men, but too many are afraid of what "other ppl with say" Think about that for a moment. That's like living in a fish bowl. Being afraid to make the wrong move for fear of everyone outside the bowl having a rousing laugh at your expense. When no matter what you do, ppl ARE going to talk about you! That's just the way it is. And the more you do with your life, the more they are going to talk. You really cannot escape it, and the only way out is death, so forget about trying to please everyone else, and just live life by your terms.
And think about this for a moment. No matter what a bw does, she's under hostile scrutiny. If she screams that she loves "brothas" trying to give love and support to fools who don't deserve it, she is desperate, and pathetic. If she speaks well, or goes to school, to try to better herself, she is "acting white" and trying to leave bm behind. If she lays down everything she has for the bc, she is a "dumb ass doormat' who is allowing herself to be used. But if she doesn't, and keeps her resources to herself, she is a selfish B turning her back on struggling "brothas"... It goes on and on. The truth of the matter is that bw can never make bm happy because BW REMIND BM (by their presence)  THAT THEY ARE BLACK AND THAT IS SOMETHING BM DESPISE, AND MOST DO NOT WANT TO BE
You will NEVER be able to please them so plz don't squander your life trying. Im off topic though. lets get back to some ways to meet a nice wg.

Duh. Go to places wg go! This is so elementary, I can't believe I have to say it, but a lot of bw frequent black enclaves almost exclusively and wonder why they don't meet non-bm!
Go to places like golf games, ski trips, surfing trips, -HOCKEY!!! Ladies hockey and golf are such white sports-you can almost predict there will be very few bm there. This is what you want. You want to go to places where you have a chance to meet a nice wg without bm there to derail the conversation before you have a chance to make introductions. And trust me they will do everything in their power to stop bw from meeting, dating and marrying out because unlike a NORMAL society, in the bc the women hold almost  80% of the wealth!!!
 Learn etiquette and go to very nice restaurants,  Always aim to look appealing but tasteful.  Please ladies leave off the tacky faddish urban clothing the young girls seem to love.  If you are really young, go for some of the more costly and centralized brands instead of  urban wear. Nothing screams you belong to bm faster than urban wear. A great way for very young bw to meet wbs is to simply wear a pair of figure flattering jeans and a ROCK TEE. The wbs will be instantly intrigued, even if they don't love that particular group. They know bgs who are open to alternative forms of music, are also usually the ones open to IR dating. There is a direct correlation between open minds, and better lives.

Now I have another suggestion, to those who say they don't like this type of music or that type. Let me say that this is primarily conditioning. You learn to embrace what you are around. This is the primary danger of keeping your children in the hood.  I for instance have lived most of my life in suburban areas, and have always loved country music. But you can always decide to change. Today does not equal tomorrow, and just because you've always done something, does not mean you have to keep doing it. Learn to embrace other things. Other languages, other music, other activities etc.
Also, ladies plz leave off the big gaudy earrings, and loud hair styles. Think class and decorum. You have to look at it from his point of view. Do you look presentable? Could he take you home to meet his mother in your "normal" wear?  If not, then get a new "normal". And don't bother telling me that you are not going to change for "no man"  Since the beginning of time, women have conformed in many ways to get the man they wanted. This is a secret many ww know. Many wgs may be very promiscuous in their teen and young adult yrs. And they may have relations with any and every type of man-while they sow wild oats. But as soon as they decide it's time to get a good man and father for their babies, they will subtly change and evolve into "wife material", and leave the wild times in a distant memory.

Men, by their nature are very attracted to smiling happy women.  This is why the media often tries to present bw are hard nosed B@!ches. They want to keep the wm from looking her way in the first place. This is why the miscegenation laws were passed back in the day. You now have many bm trying to claim it was to keep bm and ww apart. That's pure bs. Bm back in the day could not LOOK at a ww without swinging from a tree-so he sure as hell couldn't marry her! A ww who made her passion for bm be known would also have been in grave danger. No, the only group who had the power to IR marry was WHITE MEN. This is why the laws were passed. To stop wm from marrying the bw and having children with them -thus diluting the purity of the white race. 

Another great way to find a great wg is to take a wm friend of yours along with you when you go shopping or do your errands. Hold his arm and laugh as you talk. Be open and friendly, and most of all happy. Watch and see all the wgs turn and look at you with interest in their eyes. This is a great time to send your friend on an errand and strike up a convo with the cute guy trying to watch you inconspicuously.  Another tip is to leave off the gutter mouth. If you find that you are unable to get your point across without swearing like a sailor, then grab some vocab books, and study them.
Nothing screams low class like a woman screaming profanities like she's had no upbringing. Would you even talk to a woman like this, if you were a man? 

Well ladies, I'm going to sign off now. But please feel free to add your own tips to this list, and let everyone know what worked for you.... Have a great night....