They would much rather see you in pic 1 or 2
than 3-4 even at the expense of your peace of mind and happiness....
So I heard about the ridiculous letter at M essence mag, and couldn't resist going to take a look.
Actually all I can really say is that anyone silly enough to believe this letter is real-I've got a piece of the Brooklyn bridge to sell you. I actually posted a copy below so you can see for yourself how ridiculous and contrived this so-called letter is. I'm not surprised they are coming out with this tactic, what is surprising to me is that some bw are actually buying into it. I mean you would practically have to have taken the little yellow bus to school to believe this one!
It supposedly is written by a bw (yeah right) who claims her white hubby is calling her racially defamatory names during sexual intercourse. She claims to have had the money to go to an I.L.S. yet later quits her job at his suggestion and does not have the means to leave him! Even as he smears her with slurs and epithets, she claims to love him in unmitigated fashion, and find him oh so handsome, faithful and generous! Now think for a minute do any of you ladies describe someone you are lividly angry at in such glowing terms?
She also says that her husband who is American, has joked about 'owning' her people (who are NOT American -mind you) and refers to her hair as 'good hair'! Now I have to ask even the most gullible of us -when was the last time you heard a wm use the term 'good hair!!!' If that statement alone does not alert you to the REAL author of this letter -a BLACK MAN- then I'm a little worried about you...
Here are some other obvious clues...
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1. The (alleged) author claims to be an Ivy league Graduate but her poor sentence structure, and colloquial language paint a picture of a far more mundane education.
2. She intimates that she's only staying with hubby for financial reasons _this ties in perfectly with the lie bm constantly tell about bw only wanting wm for money (as if they ALL have money).
3. She mentions how his insults, and epithets grow increasingly cruel, yet she continues to stay-how many bw will let a wm get away with this?
4. She has, or claims to have the dedication, wherewithal, and stamina to finish an ILS!-yet quits
her job at his mere suggestion, and depends solely on him for her support and sustenance-even though there are no children for her to care for yet!
5. She asks asinine questions like "How can I regain attraction for my husband?" and "please tell me this is not the norm for IR relationships!" Does this really sound like a bw to you? Or does it sound more like a bm Mimicking a bw?
6. The letter makes it abundantly clear that she is merely a fetish to him- How many men MARRY their fetish!!
There are more clues, but I think you get the jist. This letter is faker than a cubic zirconium. But what is most telling and notable are the large amount of bm on the Essence board talking about it. Last I heard Essence was a WOMEN'S magazine! Why would they be there? And why the uproar over a fake letter (which of course they are trying to pass off as real) when there is hardly a peep over all the real horrors visited upon bw on a daily basis at the hands of bm? Since I was the child of a marine, I have lived all over the US. And I can tell you that 3-4 times when I was referred to as a b*tch or N-word to my face, it was at the hands of black men -not white. You can turn on any radio and hear bm calling us the B-word the H-word, or the N-word like it was going out of style. And now you are telling me that they are so angry and up in arms because a wm allegedly said it? Bull!
I will tell you what is really going on behind the feigned rage these fools are displaying. They are angry alright-but not at this fake letter. They are angry because their livestock is getting away! As more and more bw open their options and escape-they were at first non-plussed and cavalier. Then they became just a tad more nervous as the numbers increased. But now bw-wm are the fastest growing IR coupling -and they are becoming enraged.
So their feigned anger at this alledged wm and his racial slurs is all the excuse they need to tell bw -
"See we don tole you so! Dem whate mens only wants t' git n ya drawels and din he gon call yu a n*gga!"
"Yu ain't neva gon realle be hs wife -jus his bed wennch!"
Now think about it for a moment. If this man really wanted to emotionally abuse-and racially debase this woman-do you really think he would have MARRIED HER! He would have done exactly what bm do everyday. a. Come by and use her and go on about his business. or b. went to a prostitute and taken out his racial animus on her. The clues are so glaring I simply cannot believe anyone actually fell for this letter but I guess some ppl have a vested interest in this drivel being portrayed as truth, namely bm and the now editors of M essence which is now headed by 2 WHITE WOMEN AND A BLACK MAN! All the more reason why any self respecting bw would steer clear of this garbage rag, and it's infectious lies that pass as veracity...
Below is the ridiculous letter-read it and tell me do you think this non sense is real?....
Dear ------,
My man keeps calling me a “nigger bitch” during sex and I hate it.
I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the ivy league school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.
We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.
I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “nigger lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.
I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people can use the word and he cannot. I don’t use the word or believe in the nigga/nigger differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say: “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”
Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.
My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.
How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?
23 comments:
Of course this letter is fake, but I'm not hearing most other BW saying that. They're going through the motions and going back and forth with these BM. Then again, they aren't alive and awake as most of the BWE pioneers and followers are.
The thing I found most telling about the real intentions of this letter is the columnist's choice to answer each and every question the letter raised but this one:
"please tell me this is not the norm for IR relationships!"
Haha, as if Messence would have tackled that question. That tells anyone woman who is alive and awake everything she needs to know.
girl you are soooo right! I totally missed that one. She sure did answer each and every question except that one! Because she knew good and damn well that was not the norm for IR relationships, but verbal abuse is certainly the norm for bm/bw relationships- and even more so if the woman is dark!
I think the mass exedus of bw is kind of sad. Soon there will be no all black families left, because of blogs like this more and more bw think bm are no good and are leaving never to return. What about those of us who want ALL black children and not half breeds like yours?
I've been telling people that this letter is as fake as Kim K's rear end, but I didn't pick up on all of the clues that you so eloquently listed :) I looked at the source and immediately dismissed it as fake. M'Essence wanted to get some more traffic- mission accomplished. They must have gotten a bazillion clicks since releasing this creative fiction :)
Who is more likely to concern themselves with the below the waist versus what is above the waist?
BLACK COMMUNITY is losing its
ATM
MAIDS
MAMMIES
MULES
NURSES
So their is a big time outrage.
They can kick rocks and realize that Non-Black men treat women as a collective treat women better because they will check by other men and they don't let foul behavior get out of hand and negroes go run a muck.
Fake, exactly. It's silly and it was meant to keep white men away from black women. Messence had the nerve to print such a disrepectful(wm/bw) letter.
I doubt if most wm editiors-in-chief would have allowed such a letter to be printed.
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I'd like to see them post a letter from a blackwoman in a relationship with a blackman who is 'at her wits end'......
This letter was not posted to help black women, but to grab any that may just be escaping Blackistan by the ankle, as they reach the gate.
The only people that have ever had the nerve to call me (to my face) the N word, bitch, whore or, hoe were black and largely male.
Sure racists do it in private, but rarely so openly.
Why would such a man go through the trouble of courting and marrying a woman whose race he despised so much, when he could easily just hire a prostitute.
The fact of the matter is, most women in IRR are treated well, the zombies know this and they HATE IT.
Unfortunately for them, we don't care, black women are slowly waking up and we will take no more of this.
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@ Sara- there is no way you can do a post without a TROLL coming to pay you a visit (referencing Anon at 5:24 PM, 4/14/13.) Not only are they pretending to be concerned about BW, but have the audacity to call biracial children "half-breeds". Why can't go breed with all the black folks they want and leave us alone?
Ms Glam I think it's because so many bw are finally waking up, they are realllllly getting scared. Poor things. They know that bw are truly jumping ship this time and finding the happiness and stability that has eluded them for years. I just want all bw to have all the love, happiness and little happy bundles of biracial (not half breed) babies she can handle....
You're right, Sara, about happiness and stability eluding the trolls. These people are so miserable that they stalk IR websites, trying to guilt BW into dating BM only. That whole "no black families left" is a lie! If I'm black, then my family is Black - period. My husband is White, so my family is White, as well. I can successfully have a family that reflects both cultures because I am a BALANCED human being.
It all comes down to this: misery LOVES company LOL! If relationships with BM/BW were so wonderful, the trolls wouldn't visit IR websites because: 1) they wouldn't care what we are doing: they'd be too happy to focus on us, 2) they'd fear that the secret about all the 'good black mens' would get out (LOL!) and the best men would get snatched up, and 3) they wouldn't be on IR websites crying about "there will be no all black families left" and "what about those of us who want ALL black children" LOL!
They play too much over there. I cannot believe that they ran this up the flag pole... Is this, this even... Im like what?
It seems so contrived and these are the same exact words that evil Black males use against Black women. They are not fooling anyone except for the simple minded. And I wanted to add if a White man is dating/married to a black lady and he makes a racial faux pas or gaff they are usually incredibly sorry and they would never want to commit the same trespass again.
I hope people can put items like this on nignore and keep it moving.
Maybe you should bring all of yoyr same troll-like questions to the black men's table on somebody else's blog!
The sad part is how predictable bw are! They put this garbage letter out there and bw fell right into the trap-talking about she should divorce him or my wm would never do that!-miss me with that. You dumb backwards fools couldn't tell this mess was fake! Instead it set off an instant firestorm with the men saying I tole you so hmmmm wonder why they were there? Could it be to keep the slaves in the right mindset? SMH... And I think most of those men claiming it was real KNEW it was fake but needed these naïve-easily swayed sheep -uh I mean women to believe it...
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I am a WM and there is no doubt the letter is a fake and although I agree that your description of BM is correct,I don't dare say it because I feel that it may not be proper for me to say so. I work with a many women of different races, cultures and ages and I love almost all of them and have dated a few. I work with one BM who doesn't partake of the usual shenanigans other BMs do. He's a bit of a religious guy, whereas I'm not...unless you count philosophy. My problem is that I'm apparently too nice. Who would have thought this was even possible. My co-worker (the BM) says so and judging from a couple of experiences with BW in the office, it may just be true. There is one which he calls a ratchet(which I'd never heard before), whom I was very much into, and she was promising all sorts of action, but always managed to fall short of delivering, yet she was always calling me on the phone to buy her cold meds, breakfast, lunch, etc. I even went to her house a few times to do yard work for her and I bought her lots of gifts. I did this because she's a single mother with three children. She knew very well that I was into her. A few months ago, she told me that the children's father (baby daddy in her words) was in prison and was essentially nothing more than a sperm donor. She told me that her ex was in prison. Then, just recently, her husband was released from prison after 15 years and she went back to him the second he was released. To me, this was strange. My BM co-worker said that she was using me to get whatever she needed and frequently it's with a ratchet's, their jailbird husbands know and and even endorses this activity because this way he doesn't have to buy any of that AND he gets her! He is unemployed and deals drugs to earn money. Why would a woman prefer this type of male to one who does take care of her, I'll never know. But I am learning much more about BW, good ones and not-so-good ones. I dated a BW in the very early 70s in rural Georgia, but couldn't commit because I was afraid to in a racist area. I've always regretted letting her go.
hi Steve, and welcome
what you are describing is unfortunately not so unusual. Some bw have been so maltreated they no longer feel comfortable in a stable, healthy relationship. Its akin to a POW no longer able to function in everyday society, and needing therapy. This woman you describe sounds very damaged. I would def. cut my loses and move on if I were you. There are plenty of bw who know better and are truly looking for good men instead of sperm donors. Why don't you send me your email, and I will only release it to women who write in and ask for it. My email is right at the top in red. Don't give up there are plenty of women looking for someone like you....
I said I dated a woman in the early 70s. That is a typo. It was the early 80s.
It's hard for me to believe that a clearly racist white man would marry a black woman to call her derogatory names. I also think that people never hide who they truly are really well.People almost always show themselves in the beginning.I believe if the man is real and he is that damaged he did not just get that way when they married and had sex.Something seems very wrong and off about the story.
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Oohh I think someone got anon. 10:09 dander up. There are still plenty of BW for him. BTW, IMO, theres not too many gentlemen of ANY RACE today. A gentleman is just that: not a passive/aggressive or a macho pig, but a guy who's a man that takes care of things AND FAMILY. And who is gentle. And who doesnt wear Too many pastels and loud colors in his suits..LOL
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