Who are they trying to fool-Bw or Wm?

I was perusing an interracial site the other day when the author (an otherwise very intelligent bw) said something that stopped me in my tracks. She was talking about why more bw are now dating and marrying wm. She herself married a wm two years ago, and bragged about how wonderful her husband was to her. But the part that shocked and dismayed me was when this college educated, scholastically accredited woman stated very matter of factly; " she had really wanted a bm but none were interested due to her dark skin, so she had 'settled' for her husband, but was now glad things had worked out as they had!" As if this remark was not ignorant enough, she also added that "it was INHERENT IN A BW'S MAKEUP TO WANT A BM! I was so livid I had to go calm down. DH thought it was hilarious because he knows I wanted a bm like I wanted a hole in my head, and he knows many bw 'secretly' feel the same way, but I thought this was no laughing matter.

This woman, and many like her are CLOSING THE DOORS ON THE HAPPINESS OF OTHER BW WITH ASININE REMARKS SUCH AS THIS. I had to put that in caps because I think it's such an important statement. Lets be clear about something. I truly, truly believe that some bw even those who claim to have the best interests of other bw at heart, are behaving in ways that are designed to keep many bw lonely, unloved, and chasing an undeserving bm. Why they do this is a question for another forum, but many definitely do this. Now, I'm sure you ladies know that this is 100% hogwash, but unfortunately many wm/non bm don't know this! And that is what makes statements like these so pernicious. Think about this, if you were a nice wg interested in bw, what kind of impression would such a stmt make on you? Would you be more inclined or less after reading this drivel, to approach a an appealing bw?

I wa actually talking to a wm business associate of mine the other day. He told me that what's going on now is they are using propaganda on wm. He said the effect on bw seems to be fading as more and more bw (esp in the last few years) have become more honest about their attraction to wm-and correspondingly the numbers of bw/wm marriages have exploded, making them the fastest growing IR segment. As a result, (This is his theory) Many bw who want their IR marriage to remain special,( ie exclusive) are trying to cut off the road to wm for other bw. And of course we all know why bm don't want bw to get away. They would actually have to take care of themselves, and their ready-made harems would dissipate. I'm not really sure why this woman and others like her would say such things. Perhaps she really is this blissfully unaware of the problems she is causing for other women who are very much attracted to wm, and perhaps have NEVER been attracted to bm. We really do exist on all realms. Or perhaps she has heard this lie repeated so many times, that like many lies, she is now unable to distinguish it from the truth.

How do I know it's a lie. I will give a very simple scenario to demonstrate this fact.
 Now imagine if there were some attractant in melanin rich females that had the propensity to only find melanin enhanced males of similar ethnic backgrounds attractive, acceptable and appealing then it would have to ALSO WORK IN REVERSE ON THE MALES!!!  And we all know that is NOT the case. If anything, many bm have demonstrated time and again and are now even so damaged as to scream to the whole world how UNATTRACTIVE they find melanin rich females. And the more melanin she has in her skin (ie the darker) the less appealing many of them find her. This is how I know there is NOTHING black attracting about melanin! Therefore these women who claim it's innately in bw to only want a bm are responding to  social conditioning -and not any viable, or tangible attractant. In other words, attraction IS biological, color selectant attraction is NOT. If a bw is only attracted to bm, it is because she has decided through internal or external stimuli-conditioning that this is the type of man she is attracted to. But it has NOTHING to do with her biological makeup. It is merely and ingrained belief that has become a conviction. This is why she will act on it even to her own detriment. Don't you think that many of the bw you see now happily marrying out, once thought they could only be happy with bm?  I can assure you that many did because this is something that has been taught to bw since babyhood. But the corresponding message is NEVER taught to blk baby boys.They are taught that they are special. Females and the world owe them something, and they are entitled to sit back and collect it. They owe no particular allegiance to ANY woman, and are therefore free to pursue anyone they choose. The first part of this msg has been particularly devastating to many bm as they sit back and wait to be taken care of, they are falling further and further behind other men who are making things happen, while they languish in babyhood well into their 30s 40s and even 50s waiting for their 40 acres and a mule!

The second part of this msg to them I wholeheartedly agree with. They are free to be with, love and marry whomever they want, and they should. But it should cut both ways. bw should be raised with this msg as well. The bc needs to stop prevaricating to bw and telling her that she is NOT attracted to non-bm. And bw need to stop allowing ppl to get into their heads and lead them. And my wm associate was right about them going after wm now with this msg because more and more bw have stopped listening. They are panicking as more and more bw escape, so they are going for tactic number 2. Stop the relationship BEFORE it has a chance to flourish by telling wm that bw don't want them. This is why you have CR screaming this nonsense even in the face of rising bw/wm marriages. They are hoping to quell the tide before it gets going by stomping it out. I know why they are doing this, the only part that mystifies me is why bw, esp those who purport to be in happy IR marriages would participate in this modern day delusion. If you got out of a hellhole safely and found happiness, then why in God's name would you want someone else to stay in it! And lets not sugarcoat it. For many bw, relationships with bm are nothing but hellholes! Unless you call being a baby-mama (almst never a wife) -semen dump-all-bill paying-drudge, happiness. I just don't get it. Most bm are offering bw little to nothing in the way of a better life, and anyone who overtly or covertly encourages bw to stay in that mess should examine the face in the mirror and ask herself why.....